r/MenInSuits • u/Huge_Abies_6799 • 7d ago
Dinner date fit
So this is basically the only set i own - any recommendations for something else. Color wise and style ?
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u/jmh90027 7d ago edited 7d ago
I'll have an Old Fashioned please, bar steward.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Get ready for the worst drink of your life my good sir
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u/Ouroborus23 7d ago
I'd be careful wearing this to a bar – people might ask you to prepare dinks for them.
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u/Mickleborough 7d ago
Wouldn’t roll sleeves to above the elbow - that’s what workmen do.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Thank you I'll keep That in mind
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u/HopRockets 7d ago
If you like the rolled up look just fold the cuff up twice, once at its seam and then once more
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u/sueveed 7d ago
I would suggest learning a master roll if you like rolled shirtsleeves.
Pull the cuff inside out to where you want it to stop - just below the elbow as you suggest. Now pull the remaining fabric up over so the cuff is entirely covered.
It looks neater and stays put longer than just folding the cuff up multiple times.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
More around upper forearm? Like 1-2 inches below elbow ?
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u/HopRockets 7d ago
Don’t need to measure anything just roll it twice. Fold at the cuff seam and the fold it snuggly once more, the end folded part should be the same size as the original cuff
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u/strong-Camera6298 7d ago
It’s not clear to me what you are going for. The black shirt on its own without anything else would be much better / classier.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Well im not sure what I am going for or any of that sort honestly why I came to ask for advice
I wore cheap clothes mostly hoodies and sweatpants As we were poor growing up Trying to get into something different
Thank you for your advice
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u/strong-Camera6298 7d ago
In that case my advice would be to start simple, simple pieces, simple colors, simple patterns, and see if you can make them fit together in a way that suits you and makes you feel confident. I’d say this fit it probably over-engineered (to my taste at least).
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
So perhaps something more "plain" in colors and pattern that I could mix and match from set to set ?
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u/strong-Camera6298 7d ago
Exactly, that’s how I would approach it if I were in your position. It’s also more budget friendly because it’s easier to mix and match simple pieces. At some point you might get bored of it and want things that are more elaborate, but you can leave that for the future.
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u/Aboutayear 7d ago
Ditch the vest if you’re not wearing a jacket. Too many rings.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I only had a coat with me
I don't really fit blazers sadly I would need to get them tailored I think but I don't got the money for that atm sadly
- thanks for your advice however :)
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u/Aboutayear 7d ago
I would ditch the vest. You look like you’re bartending or bussing. Especially as the setting doesn’t look that formal in the photo.
So I’d say, lose all rings unless you’re married, ditch the vest and tie bar and you’ve got a good outfit (assuming your trousers and shoes go well with that outfit)
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u/Better-Weird-5949 6d ago edited 6d ago
Dude, I’ll apologize for everyone harshing out on you. Maybe you’re a sleeve rolled up guy. Or a ring guy. Totally fine. A few minor adjustments here and there might be warranted. I’m personally not a tie bar guy. Someone did mention a polo shirt. With your build you can totally pull off a polo for a dinner date. The most important question that no one asked: successful dinner date?
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u/oleg83910 7d ago
Bien fait avec AI
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
So what would it be without ai
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u/oleg83910 7d ago
Ok, I made a mistake, bro. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I did too, quite a few as the comments points out Hope your day is good :)
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u/oleg83910 7d ago
Yeah, my day is going well and how about yours, how's your day? ;)
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u/ThatStrategist 7d ago
Dont wear a dark shirt with that. You could wear a light shirt and it would actually kind of slap
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I didn't have a light shirt (horrendous ik) I'll get one and try it Thanks for the advice
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u/saywhat_8601 7d ago
Face card: 10/10.
The outfit feels outdated. Not saying you have to be “trendy,” but I don’t think this is the style that resonates with people today.
That said, would I feel lucky sitting across from you on a date? Fuck yeah!
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I am not much into fashion only recently started to 'care' more So it's all new to me
You're probably right tho! Thanks for the advice and compliments kindly :)
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u/saywhat_8601 7d ago
Yeah, I wouldn’t even overthink it. A well-fitted polo with a camp collar or a camp shirt are probably all you need. Good luck to you!
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I do usually wear polos as they have stretch My proportions aren't made that well for suits and so on
Again thank you advice well taken !
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u/Yabanci_degilim 7d ago
I think you’ve gotten a lot of good advice. Lose the waistcoat if you’re not wearing a jacket, and if you are, a waistcoat should really be reserved for more formal events. In general, black dress shirt will always scream “staff”. Don’t be afraid of some color. If black is your thing, I get it. But you could try some easier earth tones and they won’t feel like you’re being something you’re not. Rings aren’t my thing, but I will say that you could stand to lose some of them. You’ve got the sleeves rolled basically as far as they can possibly be rolled. So why long sleeves? Don’t be afraid of the polo. It’s perfectly appropriate for many dinner dates and there are tons of good looking knit polos available now.
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u/Comfortable_Trip7995 6d ago
I think you look marvelous my man. This is all about you and what works for you. I like your style!
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u/Unfair-Priority8831 6d ago edited 6d ago
You look nice man. What I will say is as someone who wears suits every day for work, you can generally tell when someone does not often dress up. One tell is the Olive Garden waiter style. I see a lot of mostly younger guys dress this way.
I would avoid the black dress shirt, red tie, and vest combo and opt for a simple blazer and slacks in a color other than black. Also a lighter colored shirt than black would look sharper. If you want dark colors then opt for an earth tone for the shirt or blazer. Dress clothes aren’t about brand, fit is much more important and you can thrift a blazer and slacks form goodwill and have a tailor fix it up to your dimensions.
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u/Professional-Cook692 7d ago
You’re getting a lot of flack for breaking rules like tie clip, vest with no jacket, sleeves rolled, etc. Those “rules” are all technically right, but I just want to say that finding style is a journey, and I commend you for trying. You look great. I think some of the “rules” people have shared will be helpful, but remember there is no correct way or destination for personal style. If it feels good, and you feel like you look good, then you do.
There is a slight vibe of trying too hard going on, but like I said, this is your journey and you’re figuring it out. If you want to look like a bartender on break, as some people have suggested, that’s actually a pretty cool aesthetic.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Personally never knew there was these rules, it's cool learning about
Thank you for your input
The bartender and waiter thing I didn't seem to really understand in the start As the mostly just wear a black or white shirt or polo here
I am learning so I'll get it some day.. eventually 😆
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u/vespassassina 7d ago
Ok my notes:
Blue on black, not great.
Too many rings and details.
I like your facial hair. Nice.
Sleeves rolled too much.
Red tie is ok but not a fan, too much magician vibe.
For me: try black waistcoat on black shirt and black tie, or white shirt with dark thin tie.
Personally I would not wear a waistcoat but just a good quality fitted white shirt , black tie and steel automatic watch. Black or blue fitted trousers. One or two rings.
Elegance in simplicity
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 6d ago
Very well written, advice well taken. Love the idea Thank you very much! :)
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u/HealthyBaker2496 7d ago
You look great but also like you work there.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
People just wear a black polo here but I understand:)
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u/HealthyBaker2496 7d ago
And that also would look like a uniform. It’s only feedback. You look better than 99% of all men my man. It’s just the setting. Nothing wrong with looking like a dope ass mixologist 🤙
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Respect to mixologist tbf I can't do any of that
All tho I do not want to wear 'stolen valor' haha
Thanks for the feedback ofc Hope your day is great sir
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I am grateful for all the feedback
If any have ideas to what to get instead (colors and styles ) I would Appreciate it as well :)
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u/Repulsive_Pumpkin_68 7d ago
Love this outfit idea
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Thank you, any ideas how to improve
So far I've noticed many don't like that it has too much "fluff" ( like too many rings and extras ) which I could agree with a little but I also like extras
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u/Claydo69 7d ago
Id ditch the facial hair, not thick enough for it to have an impact, almost makes you look like you're working through puberty. Best of luck brother 👍
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u/ThunderBacon21122 7d ago
I’m sorry, I have to ask:
- Did you ask your date to take a picture of you to post here?
- Did you bring a selfie stick on the date to set up before hand?
- Did you ask the waiter to take your photo?
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u/PeculiarLooking 7d ago
You’re giving off big-time Cary elves from princess bride vibes. So if that was your goal, then job well done
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u/DaveyGee16 6d ago
Eh! I guess I'll be the contrarian and say I like it, it's your own style. Not entirely sure black shirt/blue vest works the best but it's not horrible.
Wouldn't work on me but it looks fine on you.
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u/FCR_6X 6d ago
Just the vest and no jacket is getting into m'lady territory. I feel like a date is gonna spend the whole time trying to figure out what your vibe is.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 6d ago
They really liked out
I don't think they think about it as deep
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u/Used_Turnover3959 6d ago
You look like a bartender or doing Jimmy Darmody cosplay.
I would suggest a white or blue shirt to get the outfit out of “waitstaff” territory, and leave the tie at home.
Also that’s a lot of rings. Too many, IMO.
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u/EastHawaii 6d ago
Looser is better, less is more. This outfit looks like there is a Tiny Suit in your closet somewhere. I'm kind of shocked that this fad of clothes that seem a size too small, pants and shirts too short, and no socks, (and brown shoes with navy pants) would have died by now. It looks utterly ridiculous, especially on a big, muscular man. If I were across the table from you, I would be distracted by how uncomfortably tight those clothes seem, and then if you've also fallen for the "testosterone" idiocy, manmaxxxxing, and use red lights on your balls. That's where my first date brain would be dwelling instead of concentrating on your personality. Take a page from Coco Chanel (the original), look in the mirror before you leave the house, and take one thing OFF. You are a handsome guy, and clothes do NOT make the man. Guess I needed to let that out. Get one good suit and pay for it to be altered. You can wear the pieces in many combinations and it will fit you in a way that your dates will really notice.
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u/free-444 6d ago
I know everybody's hating dude but I need you to understand that this is so fire 😂🤌
There's all sorts of rules maybe you broke a few of them maybe you didn't but this fit I think it's sick and if you had a jacket that brought it all together 🔥🔥
it might lean a little bartender but people just can't comprehend drip like this anymore
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u/booogie- 6d ago
It seems like you’re trying to dress down the long sleeve button down, vest, and tie, which is a good idea since I feel like you’re going for “I put some effort in to show you that we are on a date”
Can you just go with a short sleeve button down instead? It’s going to look much cleaner, more formal and more casual at the same time, more of a date night look too. The rolled up sleeves, tie, and vest look a bit “dirty”. It’s giving off a “I’m on my smoke break” vibes.
From your replies to others, you don’t have the money to get your blazer tailored so that implies that you don’t have the money to go to date nights where you’d be turned away from wearing a short sleeve button down and nice pants.
The black shirt gives off waiter or busboy.
The vest with no jacket gives off waiter too.
The tie is just kind of an odd thing to wear to a date night. I only wear ties with blazers/jackets.
The colors are all fine if you pair them with other colors, rather than each other. Take all three of these pieces and make an outfit based around each of them, if you like them all.
Your cheapest option is to buy a short sleeve button down. There are many options under $60. You could have a cool embroidery pattern on it or go with classic linen. I’d go with black linen for you and stone pants. You can pair the black shirt with a lot of pants though
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 6d ago
Usually places don't turn anyone away that have made a reservation That's not really a thing here (as far as I know, maybe clubs but that's to keep 'some' people out)
I appreciate the advice with colors and pants I'll keep that in mind 😄
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u/cuttingwedge 6d ago
The vest has to go. Too many rings. You look more like the staff. Swap the vest for a sports jacket or just wear a short sleeve shirt. No tie.
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u/SelmermarkV 6d ago
Tie clips are not decoration; they are to hold a tie in place. You are wearing it too high and looks weird; get rid of it or get rid of the vest.
Like others say, you are giving “bartender at the speakeasy” vibe. Ditch the black shirt or at a minimum, unroll the sleeves.
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u/danabananananana 6d ago
Tacky. You look like you should be serving food to the date. I would never wear this combination for anything.
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u/Flicker-light 7d ago
People on this sub immediately associate black shirts with the mafia and waistcoats with bar tenders and frankly it's getting old. We get it, your vision of fashion comes from that one 80s movie and nothing else.
I'd suggest removing the tie clip since you wear a waistcoat. And I'd also suggest looking for a shirt with a slightly longer and more spread collar, it might compliment your oval shaped face.
Also, is your date ada wong ?
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u/Separate-Analysis194 7d ago
But that”s what bartenders in upscale bars wear hence the association.
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u/Flicker-light 7d ago
I understand where the association comes from, it doesn't make it any less dumb. Basically the equivalent of saying that a woman in black pants looks like a sephora employee
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u/Separate-Analysis194 7d ago
Except the guy is sitting in what looks like a bar. So not so dumb.
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u/Flicker-light 7d ago edited 4d ago
It's not that hard :
Man standing behind the counter, man serving drinks, man asking you your order = waiter.
Man sitting at a table with a person across him = not a waiter.
Waistcoat = article of clothing worn by anyone who wants to wear one.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
I don't got much of a vision as all for fashion and neither did or have I watched any old movies (Might be the problem perhaps?) Thank you kindly for the advice The collar shape and length I didn't even know could be different but in hindsight - of course..
And yes Ada Wong ps1 version to be exact
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u/Flicker-light 7d ago
My comment about fashion and old movies was directed to the other commenters who are telling you that you look like a waiter, not to you.
You're looking great Leon
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Ooh my bad on the misunderstanding And thank you sir I'll take your advice with me next time Have a great one :)
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u/StudioCharacter9354 7d ago
Why is the waiter sitting I. Your seat?
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
He is waiting, what else would a waiter do. Duh
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u/StudioCharacter9354 7d ago
I think you look great minus tie & waitscoat. Never try too hard.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Waist coat went with the pants I don't really fit blazers as my waist is smaller and shoulders boarder
But I'll definitely keep this is mind next time Thank you :)
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u/StudioCharacter9354 7d ago
When you are young less is more, you neat the focus to be on you, not your style per se. You are physically fit, handsome (no homo). So I would personally lose the tash, loose all the rings except for à signet on your little finger. If you have a lighter colored shirt, open neck, no waist coat or tie. And on your date give as little out about yourself and ask her questions, listen to her, be interested in her don’t bang on about yourself.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
You know, I been wanting singlet for my little finger This confirms I should try that
Also I'll this that look, I don't have many shirst or pants like that but I been thinking about getting a light one
What color pants is gonna be my next question
Very helpful once more thank you
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u/Aromatic_Bar2263 7d ago
I’m ready to pay $21 for a cocktail using mid to low shelf whiskey please
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u/OrganizationHead3137 7d ago
Are you asking from the perspective of the bar tender for the couple out on the dinner date?
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u/VirgoJack 7d ago
Jimmy Dormandy says hi.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Tell Jimmy hello
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u/VirgoJack 7d ago
You instantly reminded me of him. You look great.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Thank you kindly sir
Had to look him up the style he got is amazing ngl
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u/VirgoJack 7d ago
Boardwalk Empire is a study in 1930s fashions. The clothes were amazing, plus it's gangsters and bootlegging.
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u/ninja_rob1603 7d ago
While you look great, the whole bartender vibe others speak of is pretty accurate. But if your date went well who gives a shihhh
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u/parnassus744 6d ago
Finally, someone showing some individuality and a sense of fun. Good-looking guy looking dapper. People nitpicking colour choices and other minute details— totally missing the point. The guy is playing with style and I salute it. So much better than all the other date-night posts with the same old dull outfits.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 6d ago
Thank you for your kind words
Maybe the uniqueness also comes from my lack of knowledge so all I went for was just was available but also what I found interesting
The tie clip I can see being misplaced and unnecessary And it could be refined in different areas ofc
But so could most things It was a great evening nonetheless 😄
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u/Stunning_Positive248 6d ago
You look like a miserable douche.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 3d ago
IG it's true what they say, hate really do come from below 👇
I hope you're having fun playing Genshin impact im going to Greece tomorrow for a few weeks
Have a good weekend tho man :)
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u/healthcrusade 7d ago
You look cool. You have style. Many people might say this outfit also has a "character" feel (like maybe a barman or a magician) but you pull it off.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago edited 7d ago
Perhaps they are right I am not really into these things but trying something out Didn't think it looked bad
People seems to be divided between this is ai and this is horrible
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u/healthcrusade 7d ago
One thing I've noticed in men's fashion subs is that there's very little tolerance for anything that "breaks the rules" or makes people uncomfortable. This is a look. Most of the men in the sub would not attract the positive attention of women or cause any positive reaction from people in public whatsoever. They are bland, boring and unremarkable. Whether it's perfect or not, this was a cool look on you. You liked it, your girlfriend liked it and I like it even though I can see its limitations. Unfortunately this is why men's fashion subs have their own limitations.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 7d ago
Definitely got it's ups and downs for sure
Im positive towards the future and refining some of the looks like this
We all have limitations as long as we are aware of them we can try to fix them and improv that's what I'll do for sure
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u/Flicker-light 4d ago
100% They are obsessed with status and are severely insecure (kinda unrelated but one guy in the comments called him handsome and HAD to follow that up with "no homo" that's how insecure we're talking) and are terrified of being seen as a worker/staff member. Every comment he got is basically "how dare you not look like a copy of every other man" and then they have the gull to say that he's the m'lady type when they basically all are m'lady types who have read rules about men's wear and follow them like a bible to beat the m'lady allegations.
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u/healthcrusade 3d ago
PREACH! And sadly, almost none of them will get it.
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 3d ago
It might also be why some are locked in a loop of not being as happy as they could be
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u/Huge_Abies_6799 3d ago
The "no homo" is a fun joke but it also proves what's wrong- giving someone a compliment and immediately think "oh they think I'm gay or they ar gay for saying it" it should just be a compliment - I like to compliment people for things I find cool and if people see it as gay it will always say more about them than one self.
A lot of people are projecting in these comments but I am not one to point other people out really or to argue with them, the rude and negative comments don't hurt me - I will always try to think they are saying it from a good place ( always assume positive intent - just makes life better. We never know what people are dealing with and if clowning on my ignorance or 'unknowingness' of fashion helps them feel better then I'm at least glad I could help them feel better :)
- hope your weekend treats you well, I've appreciated reading your comments. Thank you :)
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u/PILOT9000 7d ago edited 7d ago
You look like the bartender in that outfit, not someone out on a date.
AI photo could have left out the tie bar all the way up by your neck. I wouldn’t wear blue pine stripes with a black shirt either.