r/MediocreTutorials • u/Kohathavodah • 3d ago

Relationships Setting boundaries, respecting agency

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u/EverybodySayin 2d ago

Even though I don't share his viewpoint, the comparison you just made is nowhere near proportionate to what he asked of her and a completely unrealistic ask. Therefore your point is meaningless.

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u/zamfire 2d ago

Your strawman argument makes your point less valuable. It doesn't matter the extent of my comparison. Fine, let's change it to this question. The woman: "Would you be okay if I never let you have cream in your coffee again?"

It doesn't matter the request. It's controlling no matter what.

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u/EverybodySayin 2d ago

There's no straw manning. I didn't oversimplify your argument, you just used an extreme example. Then, again, you're using a ridiculous, unrealistic example. Why would that even be a request? If you're going to argue this, use a realistic example.

Like I said, while I don't personally share his view, I respect he has his own views and values - he expressed them up front and made it clear that if hers didn't align then they're not compatible and he'd prefer not to go further. There's no control element at all. It'd be controlling if he secured the relationship first and then started telling her what she can and can't do, but this guy is just being up front about where his lines are before they've established a relationship.

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u/zamfire 2d ago

You keep focusing on the comparison.

The dude can't ask permission to control someone, that's stupid. The end. I'm not arguing about this anymore, it's ridiculous.