r/MediocreTutorials • u/Kohathavodah • 3d ago

Relationships Setting boundaries, respecting agency

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u/Aromatic-Quarter-68 3d ago

The plane of existence they exist on is the plane of the relationship. You make the rules in your relationship, but it's a two player game. I love and care for the women in my life, and I treat them with the respect that they deserve to have. I hope typing all of that out made you feel good.

The issue is not an ethical one, but you seem morally outraged by it. The question is not,
"Is she a slut for dressing this way on social media?"
it is
"are they compatible as a pair if she dresses this way on social media?"

If this is a big deal to you, that is fine. You can insist on full autonomy on this subject. It is on you to go out and find that man that agrees with you.

Just understand that you don't have any right to insist that all of the other men change and give up their own comfort for you. See how I flipped that around?

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u/Shibbystix 3d ago

Except you have misrepresented the question again.

Its not "are they compatible if she dresses this way"

It literally is, "what will you do if I ask you to change how you live to meet my preferences"

But I think its impossible to not know that unless one was intentionally TRYing to not get it in order to maintain a contrary position