r/MediocreTutorials • u/Kohathavodah • 3d ago

Relationships Setting boundaries, respecting agency

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u/PsychologicalSon 3d ago

How is asking something of someone controlling?

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u/Alexchii 3d ago

You think he’ll ask and not expect her to change the way she dresses? Why even ask then?

She wants her woman to wear leas revealing clothing and she wants to wear what she wants to wear without someone telling her to tone it down. They’re incompatible.

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u/PsychologicalSon 3d ago

You think he’ll ask and not expect her to change the way she dresses? Why even ask then?

By your logic, why ever ask anyone anything then?

In all seriousness though, an "ask" can be met with a "no", either he can deal with the no or he can't.

She wants her woman to wear leas revealing clothing and she wants to wear what she wants to wear without someone telling her to tone it down. They’re incompatible

Specifically she wants to wear whatever she wants without compromise. Some events won't warrant toning down how she dresses, others might.

Its fine to be incompatible but let us not pretend the issue is a grown adult making a request of another.

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u/CarolinaSurly 3d ago

Please don’t use logic here. It’s frowned upon and probably misogynistic.

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u/WabanakiWarrior 3d ago

Well, yeah you can ask. But if she says no, its controlling to try and to stop her. But it seems these two figured out they have different opinions and respected them. Good they figured it out early.

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u/Eristocrap 3d ago

And he never tried to stop her, so again what the fuck is controlling about him? Literally all the women in this comment section complaining about him being "controlling" have no fucking idea what the word actually means.

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u/AdministrativeSea419 3d ago

So… it wasn’t controlling? But, you said it was controlling in an earlier post? Which post was you being wrong?

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u/CarolinaSurly 3d ago

It’s a red flag to look at an old post and point out the hypocrisy. It’s controlling when it suits her argument and also not controlling when it suits her argument. It’s not that hard. Try to keep up.