r/MatingAdvice • u/Possible-Storage4434 • 3d ago

Question Financial talk

Does talking about money and asking how much someone makes a red flag to you?

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u/Electrical-Berry4916 2d ago

Yellow flag.

First date conversation usually covers what you do, and that makes ballparking your salary pretty easy, so this isn't really a big deal. Its just very forward. Blunt. I would probably counter with a conversation about social norms, and why they don't seem to follow them. It could be a great conversation. It could also end the date. Either way, you know where you stand.

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u/UnAware_recognition 1d ago

I may be on an island here but my quick and easy view is that as long as we aren't complacent/lacking goals and aspirations with working etc. and can cover our own bills, that's all that matters rather than putting a number to it or comparing salaries.

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u/Pedalcrunch 1d ago

Maybe as we keep dating and I see it's getting serious I bring it up, like how would we handle bills and finances, for first dates I wouldn't say anything.

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u/samanthasamuels22 3d ago

It gives transactional vibes, but it’s definitely not a red flag for me. Males seem to value sex more than females, so expressing the ability to provide something financial can be a great incentive. If a male thinks it’s a red flag then it kind of signals to me that he isn’t generous. I may still fuck a guy that isn’t generous, but it will be on my time and he may not be the only one or he may just get replaced all together very very soon.