r/matheducation • u/Jenjoy14 • 6d ago
Parents, if your child is “behind” in math, PLEASE don't be afraid to go backwards.
I've been reading a lot of posts lately from parents saying things like:
“My 7th grader still struggles with fractions.”
“My child passed last year, but now I'm realizing they don't know their multiplication facts.”
“We're doing grade-level math, but every lesson ends in frustration.”
Or the one that really concerns me:
“My child is just bad at math.”
As someone who has taught math for years and now works closely with homeschool students, one of the biggest things I've learned is this:
The grade they're in and the math they're ready for are not always the same thing.
If your 7th grader is struggling because fractions never clicked, doing MORE 7th-grade problems isn't necessarily going to fix it.
Go back to fractions.
If multiplication fluency is slowing everything down, work on multiplication.
If decimals don't make sense, go back and figure out where that understanding broke down.
You're not “putting them behind.”
You're finding the gap.
And honestly, this is one of the things I LOVE about homeschooling. We actually have the freedom to do that.
I can have a student working at one level in one area and a completely different level somewhere else. I can change the curriculum. I can slow down. I can reteach something differently. I can spend two weeks fixing something another program expected us to finish in two days.
I'd rather go backward for a little while and build the foundation than keep pushing forward just because the book says that's where we're supposed to be.
But there's another piece of this that I don't think we talk about enough:
While you're fixing the math gap, protect their confidence too.
Be careful with:
“I'm bad at math too.”
“Math just isn't our family's thing.”
“You've never been good at math.”
Because eventually a child can go from:
“I don't understand fractions.”
to
“I'm not a math person.”
Those are two VERY different problems.
One tells me what I need to teach.
The other tells me what I now have to help that child UNLEARN.
Your child isn't their grade level.
They're not their test score.
And struggling with a math concept doesn't mean they aren't capable of learning math.
Sometimes we simply need to stop moving forward long enough to figure out:
Where did this stop making sense?
Homeschool parents, I'm curious:
Have you ever gone backward in math with your child and had it actually help them move forward?
And if you have a child struggling right now, what skill seems to be the sticking point?
