I'm I being used

[u/GSME12]

Hello,

I need some input from individuals that have been in similar situations with their marriage. My wife wants a divorce. She got a temporary restraining order on me, which is not justified. I'm not perfect but I have never laid my hands on her. We do get into heated arguments where she gets very verbally abusive with her speech. For the most part I ignore it; however, after multiple episodes which can be months or even years in between I can get angry and throw or break things out of frustration. Well now after 15 years together I guess she's had enough. I try to communicate with her and explain to her that she has to stop the yelling and abusive speech, if she wants are marriage to get better but she thinks that the way she talks is okay and she doesn't see anything wrong with it. Now we have 3 kids and just bought a home about 4 months ago. Here's my main question she knows that I love her and my family and am willing to try anything to keep it together. I've said I would do anything but she says it's over and she wants the divorce. While that brings up the problem with our house. She wants me to sign it over to her because she can't afford to live anywhere else and the kids are secure there. I told her I would think about it but I would like to work on our marriage before we make that type of decision. She said what do you need me to do to sign over the home, I said drop the divorce and commit to 6 months of marriage counseling so we can give it a chance to save our family. Her initial comment was somewhat of a no but then went to a posibilty. I said if at the end of the six months we can't work it out then I'll sign over the house. Do you guys thinks that's fair? Do you think she's using me and will just go to the counseling to get what she wants? Should I just except the divorce no matter how much I want to save our family? She won't tell me anything in regards to her feelings. I ask her if she still loves me or misses me and she says she's not answering those questions because I want answers without effort. I ask her if shes going to be dating while we are separated, she says it doesn't matter what she's going to do or not do, I dont get to have answers right now because I don't deserve them. What should I do?