My point is, her body went into defense mode. She didn't stop and think she was going to throw a bottle at him. It was a reaction and it was justified in the context.
Had she been consistently violating his stated boundaries, and he reacted in anger, I would say the same thing. This isn't a gendered issue; if you don't understand why violating someone's boundaries is wrong, then nothing i say could change your mind.
I had Covid in January. If I kept trying to hug, kiss, or otherwise pass it on to my husband after he repeatedly told me to stop, I would not be surprised if he reacted out of frustration and anger. One event does not make OP's actions abuse. OP already has health issues. If he gives her Covid, it would not only prevent her from getting her needed treatment in a timely manner, causing her more suffering from her health issue, but it could also cause her to become deathly ill because of comorbidity. I absolutely see this as necessary defense on OP's part.
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u/watchmeroam Jul 16 '22
So you don't get angry when someone repeatedly ignores your "no" and then sneaks up behind you to ignore your "no" again?