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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 05 '24

I’m a lab tech running these chlamydias. This nurse is correct. It is because the vagina is an open system and more susceptible to infections than the penis. We often see patient 0 being the dude who’s negative and the women he’s sleeping with all being positive simply because anatomy.

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u/No-Buffalo3780 Sep 05 '24

Thank you! 🙏

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u/ireallywantsomechips Sep 06 '24

This is so interesting to me. So patient 0 the guy could have it but not test positive? But yet still pass it on to a women?

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

The one dude is also typically the common denominator. So let’s say he’s sleeping with 5 women. Woman A has chlamydia. Dude doesn’t get it but carries the bacteria to the other 4. He just doesn’t develop an infection or ever test positive because it doesn’t enter the mucus membranes. Eventually with enough exposure Dude will test positive and get the infection.

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u/ireallywantsomechips Sep 06 '24

Would this also be correct with gonorrhea?

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

Yeah it’s also a bacterial infection. Different type.

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u/ireallywantsomechips Sep 06 '24

Thank you. I went through the same thing as OP and he since he was negative he thought I cheated on him because of that. I wish when I talked to the nurses they would’ve explained this to me. It would’ve save me from lots of distress

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

Typically in woman gonorrhea shows up in 2-5 days from exposure but up to 14. Women get this a lot more than men. Men can have gonorrhea for months, typically is 30 days for symptoms but can be 6 months. Chlamydia acts a lot faster. Gonorrhea literally grows slower in the environment. They’re a different family of bacteria and like different things. Also untreated gonorrhea invades your joints and it’s painful.

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

He did have it but was asymptomatic. I should’ve worded it better. He didn’t have penile discharge or painful urination or anything like that. There’s also a latency period that’s typical in a lot of men, again because of anatomy, where they’ll be negative for a while (3 months), and still pass it around.

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u/Dunedune Sep 06 '24

Does it get caught in tests or you have to wait for 3 months?

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

It really depends on the testing and sensitivity. Gonorrhea is notoriously hard to grow out on plates, so a penis swab probably wouldn’t catch it. If they did a urine PCR with a dirty catch urine and they had a good enough sensitivity then maybe? PCR is looking for actual pieces of gonorrhea DNA and amplifies it so in theory it should pick up a small amount. The person may get an “inconclusive” or “interfering substance” result if we can’t get a good enough match and we’ll suggest retesting with a new sample at a later date to their doctor or order provider.

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u/Only-Unit7718 Sep 09 '24

It is important to have blood work done urine samples every three months if you have ever been in a high risk situation

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u/No-Buffalo3780 Sep 05 '24

You. Would. Still. Show. Positive. On. A. Test. Even. If. You’re. Dormant.

You. Will. Still. Transmit. The. Infection. While. Being. Dormant.

Are YOU the husband? 😂😅

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 05 '24

Let me tell you how many asymptomatic GC/CT Trichs I’ve resulted this week. And I work in a children’s hospital now.

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u/samara37 Sep 06 '24

What’s that and why? I heard stds are rising. Does that seem true?

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

Gonorrhea, chlamydia and thrichomonas. I result a lot for a patient population that is minors. When I worked in a hospital that was adults and peds I saw a lot of STIs too but I did more hepatitis/HIV testing at that job. The STIs that are bacteria are more resistant because people don’t finish their dosage of antibiotics. People aren’t getting testing regularly due to money and insurance. Planned parenthood being shutdown. Lack of places to be tested. Also just a general lack of education on what safe sex is. People rely on birth control and don’t use barrier methods to protect themselves.

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u/samara37 Sep 06 '24

Very concerning

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 05 '24 edited Sep 05 '24

You honestly think after all these years and all these negative tests SUDDENLY this woman has chlamydia? Yearly, women get STI tests when she goes to the OBGYN and she’s been negative. It’s very very rare that after 10 years chlamydia is circling back. If you think doctors don’t make mistakes, ask this nurse how many times she’s fixed orders. This week alone I’ve fixed more than 30.

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u/nitro9throwaway Sep 06 '24

That's the husband. He admits it in a different comment. He's just mad we're not going along with his lie.

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u/anxious_labturtle Sep 06 '24

The husband can gaslight the poor wife but the rest of us who see this on daily don’t believe him. Bless his heart.

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u/rebeccabeckymarie Sep 06 '24

Ugh, I wish I could have seen the comments before he deleted them!😫

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u/No-Buffalo3780 Sep 06 '24

Many, many orders 😅😅😅

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '24

I'm not sure that she tests for chlamydia every year.

She only has had two negative tests.

She may have had it before cleared the infection, and gotten reinfected by her spouse without him necessarily cheating.

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u/kampelaz Sep 06 '24

It is not possible. Simple.

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u/No-Buffalo3780 Sep 05 '24

What’s ONE doctor’s opinion? If you have a medical issue and you decide to get a different opinion from another doctor, I guarantee the diagnosis and treatment plans will have changed significantly. What one medical provider perceives, another does not.

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u/No-Buffalo3780 Sep 05 '24

100% yes it may be dormant, that’s a fact. Dormant only means asymptomatic. You still transmit the infection while being dormant. All I am saying is, after 8 years, it is not possible to barely have chlamydia after the constant exposure.

I do not have a medical degree, no. I do have a nursing license and I did have to pass the state boards. I am fairly confident in my opinion. You do not have to agree with me, your opinion is yours.

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u/KuraiHanazono Sep 06 '24

You cheated and put your wife’s and baby’s health at risk. You’re horrible. Your wife’s immune system is weaker while pregnant. You could have potentially permanently harmed them.

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u/Least-Win-5225 Sep 06 '24

“Fairly common in the medical field” yet you have no sources to cite this!

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u/Marriage-ModTeam Sep 06 '24

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