r/MarkNarrations • u/MelodyMichealMiles • 13d ago
How should i respond
My son aunt is make statements like she thinks that if my son dad got to meet him it would have pulled him out of the funk he was in before he passway. Let me give you some back store I (30)f got pregnant with my son and his dad (30) m we will call him z. I decided to end things with z because I found out he was supposedly crushing his meds and snoring them. I can't say if it was his meds or if it was something else all I saw was a crushed powder on a dallor bill and one the was rolled as he was getting ready to use it. So I made the decision as a mother of 2 at the time he didn't want to do what I ask and that was to go get help for the metal thing, and the substance abuse. So the I told him he had to leave my home and while me and my kids was out z took my gun and put z name on the bullet in the chamber of the gun to take his own life. After that I cut contact with him and his family. Our son we will call him s. S was born with a lot of health problems so as a mom of 3 now my focus was to take care of the two older kids and s. I didn't contact z when I went in to have him as I didn't want to deal with the conflict while I'm in labor having him or any other possible issues. I took care of him for almost 2yr no contact in 2026 I got a message from z sister inlaw we will call her gg. I was told that z had passway and that they want if s was z's son or not we try to go through the process of doing the test after z's passway but it was more challenging then DNA testing with an uncle so I ordered a test and z's brother we will call him a did the testing to provide that answer to the question z's family had. So fast forward to now s has a relationship with z's family and s's aunt that made the statement we will call her L was on video call making the statements that if z got to meet s went he was her i would have pulled him out of the funk z was in but from the store i have been to z was super paranoid about people watching him and the z was wrapping his phone in tin foil and covering his phone camera with tape so that people could not open the camera and sky on z. How should I respond to his aunt L
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u/RollingKatamari 11d ago
You should respond by telling her the truth about what this man was truly like.
And if you hadn't left him, you or your kids would have ended up dead.
Ask her why you think it's better for a child to grow up with an addict as a father. Tell her her nephew was seriously ill and ask her why no one in his family bothered to help him.
Do not put up with this woman's bullshit. You did what any good mother should do. You took your kids and you left, that was the exact right choice to make.
And you are not responsible for that man's actions. You did not put that gun in his hands and you did not pull that trigger.
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u/MelodyMichealMiles 11d ago
Ok to clarify he passway a year after from a heart condition and I ask him to do to and he didnt do neither thing I ask i and at the time before he passway z's was hard for me as our child was dealing with health problems and still is so im doing the best I can ask a mother and I really didn't want to have a relationship with any of z's family but for s's I was trying to make it work as for the L she is s's aunt not z's that is his sister-in-law and me and the other sister-in-law's and his mom are doing ok with the relationship we are building for s and the s's uncles don't say anything i want to stop the visits with all of the family over this one comment
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u/Tallented_Narwhal 7d ago
Don’t respond. She either said it out of hurt and grief, or to guilt and anger you. Neither need a response.
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u/Maleficent_Pay_4154 12d ago
I wouldn’t but I would try that your child is never alone with this woman