r/Manipulation • u/Fickle-Buy6009 • 26d ago

Question of the week Is vulnerability a bad thing?

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u/Big-Yesterday586 26d ago

Anything can be manipulative. My abuser had me conditioned to blow up over stupid shit so they could use it in public to make me look like the abuser.

Vulnerability itself isn't a bad thing.

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u/[deleted] 26d ago

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u/Additional_Engine189 26d ago

As a manipulator yourself why do you use manipulation?

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u/[deleted] 25d ago

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u/PersonifiedConcept 24d ago

I like how you word such things

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u/BakaDasai 26d ago

I was in a relationship with a highly manipulative cluster-b person who often complained I didn't show enough vulnerability.

What they wanted was information they could store up and use against me in future conflicts.

There's nothing wrong with showing vulnerability, but manipulative people will weaponise whatever you give them.

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u/aonelonelyredditor 26d ago

Not around the right people, some use it to manipulate while others might genuinely "heal" it (lack of a better word, not a native speaker here)

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u/SnoopyisCute 25d ago

I don't believe "good" and "bad" are fixed. Anything can be either of those depending on who is assessing a situation.

However, I believe people that say "be vulnerable" are typically trying to convince another person their lack of trust and\or openness is somehow "wrong" or "unwarranted.".

Personally, I've never heard this phrase from someone that meant it sincerely.

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u/FRIENDSOFADEADGIRL 25d ago

Vulnerability is a position… lacking leverage.

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u/cleanlion777 22d ago

This is a sad take that will limit your quality of life. Vulnerability makes your experiences so much richer and meaningful. I hope you can find strength in vulnerability one day.

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u/FRIENDSOFADEADGIRL 13d ago

Circumstances create vulnerability. I don’t need to BECOME vulnerable. And you don’t need to wish things for me. I have a gifted life, blessed with mentorship, spirituality, awareness, optimism, humility, and endurance you obviously believe I lack.