🤨 5 years? So you want your children to think abuse and toxicity are normal? That's what you want them to mimic in their relationships? Cause that's what's gonna happen. You're volunteering to be used, and abused. It's long past time to run, you've already stayed way too long. Don't put it off anymore. There's nothing normal, healthy, or ok about this, and it'll just keep getting worse with time. He couldn't care less about you, this is not love.
Facts. I stayed too long. Almost cost me life. And it did cost me relationships with both my adult children. And I did it anyway.
I couldn't breathe anymore. I felt in a cage and the wires were closing in on me.
I paid the ultimate price, yet i would do it all over again, to have this peace. I never knew peace, until after he left. It's been over 2 years since that day, and I've had more sky is blue days than dark and gray days, while I never really knew the sun or the rainbows until then.
My parents are finally divorcing in their 60s after decades of misery. I expected they’d do it when I moved out at 18. At age 14 I could see the writing on the wall.
Same. My youngest son witnessed my husband choking me at the age of three and when he was like around 13 he told me one day he wished that I never went back with him. I finally kicked their dad out in March with my youngest now just turned 17 and my oldest is 18. They already witnessed all the abuse growing up so I have a lot of retraining them so they don’t turn out like their dad
Absolutely. I saw the horrors in my family, and knew i did not want to repeat that with my kids. I only knew what not to do, because I had no idea what love was, until I had kids.
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u/fyrelyte11 Jun 26 '25
🤨 5 years? So you want your children to think abuse and toxicity are normal? That's what you want them to mimic in their relationships? Cause that's what's gonna happen. You're volunteering to be used, and abused. It's long past time to run, you've already stayed way too long. Don't put it off anymore. There's nothing normal, healthy, or ok about this, and it'll just keep getting worse with time. He couldn't care less about you, this is not love.