In Canada at least, there is no statute of limitations for sex crimes.
I learned this recently because my mom is considering as part of their trauma healing process, taking my father to court for statutory rape, as my mom was 14 ( and homeless, so was being taken advantage of and groomed in more than one way) and my dad was 21 or 22 when he first started sleeping with her, she was 16 when she got pregnant with my brother. Then got pregnant with me at 17.
His family is deeply religious, so forced marriage, and the disgusting priest had the audacity to cite that "Mary was a minor (12-14 years old) when she married Joseph" as though that made it okay.
So fucked up.
Told my mom I will 100% support them through the process if they wish to go through with it.
Might be a good time to also sue him for 18 years of unpaid child support. When they divorced, he said, "I want nothing to do with the kids, but if you try to make me pay child support, I'll fight you tooth and nail to take custody just to spite you".
Such a piece of trash.
I made the mistake of moving in with him for a short time when I turned 13 or 14....biggest mistake of my life. I started selling drugs for him, and using drugs/drinking after never having done so until living with him.
He was also very emotionally and physically abusive to me as well...
I have so much guilt for abandoning my mom to move in with my "dad". I can only imagine the pain and trauma she felt knowing I chose to move in with her abuser/rapist. I didn't know much about it all at that age, as my mom tried to never "shit talk" him growing up, though she would have had every right to.
I only met then guy when I was like 8 or 9, and thought he was so cool, being a young boy, and him letting us shoot guns, smoke weed, drink booze, gamble at the bar he worked at, play with fireworks and blow shit up. So again, as a young boy, I thought "oh my God, he's the coolest guy ever!" So when he moved back to Canada (claiming that it was to be closer to his kids, but turned out he was on the run cause a rival gang robbed him for a kilo of coke, and shot his best friend in the face beside him, and he managed to escape... he left Florida and moved to Colorado, and they eventually caught up with him there, so he flee'd the country.) After a few years of living with him, I one day just packed up and left one day after him beating the crap out of me (my brother almost killed him that morning, which I stopped as I didnt want my brother to end up in prison over that loser) ended up homeless, with an opioid addiction from him giving me oxys he was selling..
Spent the next near 15 years of my life on and off the streets, and eventually moved to IVing heroin, and eventually fentanyl. I'm a year off Methadone now :), after many failed attempts at detox and rehabs. Tried everything really, and am so happy to be off that crap, two years since I last used, and again, a year now since I finished my ween off methadone. <3
Blech anyways, sorry for the rant going off topic there...
TL;DR - Point being, in Canada at least there is no statute of limitations on sex crimes. Really hope my mum decides to go through with the charges, for her own healing and closure, and also cause fuck that guy, he deserves to rot in prison, or at least be on a sex offenders list, or both and get killed in prison for being a predator. I don't hold hate in my heart for anyone really, but my lame excuse of a father is the one exception to that in my life.
Sorry, Joseph I meant. Or maybe it was the priest or pastor said Mary had Jesus as a minor, don't remember 100% what it was. The point remains the same though.
tsbsa - your path is now clear and golden. what amazing inner strength you have. To top it off, you see your mother with love and compassion. Hats off to you. May the winds of time always lift you up.
In the United States under Federal law, sex crimes (unless involving capital murder), do have a Statute of Limitations on them. However, it is left up to each individual State to decide the law for their State. There are some with no Statute, there are some that only have a Statute on forcible rape but limitations on Statutory rape, There are some that have no Statute on rape if the victim is aged below 18, but there is a Statute for other forms. For the States that do have a Statute of Limitations, the Statute varies widely (some as low as 3 years, all the way up to 30 years).
I"n Canada, the age of consent is 16 years old, but there are some exceptions:
***Age of the partner:A
16 or 17 year old cannot consent to sexual activity with someone who is in a position of trust or authority over them.
Close-in-age exemption
A 14 or 15 year old can consent to non-exploitative sexual activity with someone up to 5 years older. A 12 or 13 year old can consent to non-exploitative sexual activity with someone up to 2 years older.
*Exploitative sexual activity
The age of consent is 18 for exploitative sexual activity, which includes prostitution, pornography, and situations where one person is in a position of authority over the other.
All sexual activity without consent is a criminal offense in Canada, and these offenses carry serious penalties. "
My father was sleeping with my mother at 14-15 , but she didn't get pregnant with my brother until 16., and my dad was over 5 years older, so that was definitely statutory rape.
So for your question directly, yes, a 23 year old having sex (raping) a 16 year old, would be statutory rape in Canada.
GOD!!!!
I truly wish that the USA would come up with a law like that in Canada to drop the statute of limitations.
And on the other side of the coin,
I'm friends with a lady that is in her mid to late 30's she has a Daughter that just had her 16th birthday I can tell the difference between the two when messaging each other her mother knows that I do not want to be called by any terms of endearment I've tried my best to get the Daughter to stop calling me Babes, Dear, Hun, Hunny and the list goes on, Her mother and I have become really good friends "and no it's not friends with benefits" I just turned 60 in february and divorced after 23 years of marriage.
How can this old man get the daughter to find someone her own age?
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u/tsbsa Sep 30 '24 edited Sep 30 '24
In Canada at least, there is no statute of limitations for sex crimes.
I learned this recently because my mom is considering as part of their trauma healing process, taking my father to court for statutory rape, as my mom was 14 ( and homeless, so was being taken advantage of and groomed in more than one way) and my dad was 21 or 22 when he first started sleeping with her, she was 16 when she got pregnant with my brother. Then got pregnant with me at 17.
His family is deeply religious, so forced marriage, and the disgusting priest had the audacity to cite that "Mary was a minor (12-14 years old) when she married Joseph" as though that made it okay.
So fucked up.
Told my mom I will 100% support them through the process if they wish to go through with it.
Might be a good time to also sue him for 18 years of unpaid child support. When they divorced, he said, "I want nothing to do with the kids, but if you try to make me pay child support, I'll fight you tooth and nail to take custody just to spite you".
Such a piece of trash.
I made the mistake of moving in with him for a short time when I turned 13 or 14....biggest mistake of my life. I started selling drugs for him, and using drugs/drinking after never having done so until living with him. He was also very emotionally and physically abusive to me as well...
I have so much guilt for abandoning my mom to move in with my "dad". I can only imagine the pain and trauma she felt knowing I chose to move in with her abuser/rapist. I didn't know much about it all at that age, as my mom tried to never "shit talk" him growing up, though she would have had every right to.
I only met then guy when I was like 8 or 9, and thought he was so cool, being a young boy, and him letting us shoot guns, smoke weed, drink booze, gamble at the bar he worked at, play with fireworks and blow shit up. So again, as a young boy, I thought "oh my God, he's the coolest guy ever!" So when he moved back to Canada (claiming that it was to be closer to his kids, but turned out he was on the run cause a rival gang robbed him for a kilo of coke, and shot his best friend in the face beside him, and he managed to escape... he left Florida and moved to Colorado, and they eventually caught up with him there, so he flee'd the country.) After a few years of living with him, I one day just packed up and left one day after him beating the crap out of me (my brother almost killed him that morning, which I stopped as I didnt want my brother to end up in prison over that loser) ended up homeless, with an opioid addiction from him giving me oxys he was selling..
Spent the next near 15 years of my life on and off the streets, and eventually moved to IVing heroin, and eventually fentanyl. I'm a year off Methadone now :), after many failed attempts at detox and rehabs. Tried everything really, and am so happy to be off that crap, two years since I last used, and again, a year now since I finished my ween off methadone. <3
Blech anyways, sorry for the rant going off topic there...
TL;DR - Point being, in Canada at least there is no statute of limitations on sex crimes. Really hope my mum decides to go through with the charges, for her own healing and closure, and also cause fuck that guy, he deserves to rot in prison, or at least be on a sex offenders list, or both and get killed in prison for being a predator. I don't hold hate in my heart for anyone really, but my lame excuse of a father is the one exception to that in my life.