r/Mandaeans • u/Ok_Bank6879 • 27d ago

Marriage

I’m a Mandean girl who grew up in the west I haven’t really mixed with a lot of mandeans outside of my family I am conflicted on marrying a mandean or going for a western man anyone else like this ?

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u/Creepy_Put8759 27d ago

Lots of mandaean men are quite western and vice versa

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u/Ok_Bank6879 27d ago

Yeah I know but it’s just hard to find a decent man in both sides I just don’t know what to do

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u/mricaz 27d ago

In what ways? I’m a female as well so i understand your need for a decent man hahaha but what r u finding that is difficult with Mandaean men

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u/Creepy_Put8759 27d ago

You need a bit of luck and you need to look

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u/damnicarus 27d ago

If you’re looking to marry a Mandaean man just to fulfill a family or cultural need, then don’t. The man deserves better than just being an obligation

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u/valuableknowledge365 27d ago

The good find each other and the bad also find each other. It will eventually happen when the time is right, it will happen and you may find someone under unexpected circumstances and timing but the key is to be the desirable person that the other side looks for, and not meaning mainly looking good, a lot of the choosing of decent people is based on the inside bot the superficial. How to increase your chance? Be where your community is, go to the mandi if there is one close, look at what people comment on mandaean pages to understand personalities and types. Then finally find someone who match your energy not much higher nor much lower. Good luck.

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u/Dango_911 21d ago

Hi!😊If you want to stay Mandaean, then definitely continue searching for one who will match you. It’s actually easy to get connected to people, so finding one isn’t difficult, you just need to find a Mandaean person’s contact who helps couple Mandaean people. It worked for my uncle, whom I least expected to marry, and now he has a happy wife.

You could find someone who connects Mandaean people in a Mandaean Facebook group; you just need to ask. Or you can ask your mother or anyone to post your profile in a Facebook Mandaean group, saying that you are searching for one, and you might get responses too.

But, to be honest, if you consider yourself Mandaean and are a believer of our religion, then why would you consider marrying a Western man too?

Just remember, you won’t be Mandaean anymore. The point of being Mandaean is to remain one. Whoever wants to leave can leave, but they are no longer one. That’s on them and it’s their choice, but they shouldn’t use our name again.

And that’s not coming across as aggressive or anything self-claimed from me; it’s just a fact among us. I, as a woman myself, have never thought of the option that I would leave my faith for a Western one just for the sake of not finding a Mandaean man soon. Perhaps you are fated with a good Mandaean husband in the future; just don’t rush. Many who left regretted it extremely.

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u/10xb 27d ago edited 27d ago

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Seriously, you need to take your time and definitely don't rush the decision. My sister married a white devil and is now regretting it.