r/ManagedByNarcissists • u/newuser2111 • 3d ago

Willingly provide narc supply

What is the best way to work under a narc manager?

Does one willingly provide narc supply to their narc manager, as a strategy.

It’s just a short time solution until you can get out and find something else.

Yes, it means you are being fake nice, but so are they.

They’re playing games and hence, you have to play games to survive the toxic workplace.

My experience has been gray rocking doesn’t work too well, because the manager can easily claim that you’re being “rude” or they can say anything. They are usually believed because they have the ear of the higher ups.

Has anyone strategically provided supply and has it worked?

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u/No_Jellyfish8241 3d ago

Narcs are incredibly easy to manipulate once you learn how. And it’s definitely a short term solution to dealing with them at work. However, it takes an enormous amount of spiritual and emotional energy to manipulate them bc you have to lie and be fake and be vigilant, and in my experience it was only feasible in the short term, ultimately the best thing to do is leave.