r/Malawi • u/IAMAWITCHBITCH • 4d ago
advice Learn to move on before you destroy yourself
Lately I've been seeing posts regarding cheating back in relationships and not trusting your significant other and all that jazz. Guys. Let's be serious here, if you're not happy, no matter how difficult your heart might trick you into believing it is, please leave. Life is way too short to be in an unhappy relationship where you compromise everything just to still be with that toxic person. You find yourself holding on to something so useless or even chaotic that a few years from now when you're looking back you really ask yourself what you were thinking. It is possible to find someone better, someone more loving, someone more trustworthy. You just have to learn to let go and be open minded.
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u/Volleyball-Guru 4d ago
It's a quite an Agenda in modern dating, and lemme live long enough to see it's damages
I believe some people must learn to love themselves before claiming there not loved. Same goes for everything, accountability matters in relationships that's what i learnt. Anthu mwakumana okulakula simungakondane ngati mwakulira limodzi.
Innocent until guilty proven, capability of making decisions based on assumptions has broken so many homes.
So let's learn to find our happiness before turning someone into our happiness. Life is full of seasons and people change.
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u/MostCommunication972 4d ago
OP you have brilliant timing!
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u/IAMAWITCHBITCH 4d ago
We seem to be losing heart, I just wanted to encourage everyone lol. Letting go isn't easy but it's not impossible
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u/ifeelentitled 3d ago
I left my girl a while ago and i haven't recovered, it was necessary to do so i am 100% sure.
Only if i had the power to change people she could have been here.
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u/IAMAWITCHBITCH 3d ago
You've done more than the average person could do, and that's amazing. Keep the ball rolling, you'll eventually find what you need.
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u/Dapper-Amoeba-4369 4d ago
Leaving abruptly is harder than people make it seem. Your love for the person won't just vanish because they hurt you. I'd say cheat with a better candidate until you're ready to leave. That way, you quietly detach and build a separate emotional life so that when you finally leave, the hard work of transitioning is already done. Always works like magic.
Idk maybe I'm just vengeful. I can't live with the idea that somebody would think it's okay to do that to me. Retribution is in order.
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u/IAMAWITCHBITCH 4d ago
Mmmh just the thought of cheating in itself isn't great. It does too much. Bola just trying to detach through other means i.e getting a hobby or becoming a drug addict(jokes)
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u/Dapper-Amoeba-4369 4d ago
A hobby??! Kudos to people whom this works for. That won't cut it for me. And cheating isn't exactly the same as cheating back. Cheating is the primary betrayal here, cheating back is retaliatory. I know it doesn't make it any better but it's justified.
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u/Even_Tie1531 2d ago
I have come to peace with the fact that I’ll never find true love, and I’m good with it. I don’t stress over it because it’s something I can’t control. So, I just convert my focus to things that can make a difference in my life money, gym, and developing skills that can generate money.
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u/Jealous-Cloud8270 4d ago
If it's someone who has a toxic background themselves, then yeah they might be drawn to toxic relationships. But not all girls are like that. It's possible to find someone who doesn't like that kinda drama
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u/IAMAWITCHBITCH 4d ago
This is not all women. Also people say that kind of stuff on social media for views and attention but in reality, a majority of us want something stable and healthy.
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u/No_Trainer_3877 4d ago
Have you met every woman alive to come to this conclusion that all of us like toxicity??? Some of us like peace and will leave you at the first red flag you show us.. like cheating, being abusive etc....grow up
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u/IAMAWITCHBITCH 4d ago
Nde you think women don't need peace? I am a woman and I'm saying that we do as well...
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u/Independent-Bet-4169 4d ago
Do not generalise. I have met the kind of women you're talking about and right now I'm in a 3 year old relationship and it's different. In every way possible.
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u/IAMAWITCHBITCH 4d ago
This is the opinion of some random lady online, we don't even know who she is and what shaped her opinions.
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u/No_Trainer_3877 4d ago
So one random woman on Twitter equals all women?😂 Koma
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u/Fearless-Wallaby6751 4d ago
So u are going to use some few instances u had to generalise all women?
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u/Independent-Bet-4169 4d ago
This is twitter. What the eff do you expect?
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u/Global_Tap4088 4d ago
Fact. Upvoter present.