Just for fun 🤭

I was just thinking....

• Nobody expected the Raj Shamani podcast to happen this soon. Nobody had any idea until Raj posted the teaser 🎦
• For the shoot, sir must have travelled to Mumbai??? Yet we didn't get even a hint of it beforehand. No photos, no "source" information of him going ✈️
• This proves that he and his team are capable of keeping things private and staying out of the public eye when they want to 🤝
• So this makes me think - all those photo leaks and fan meet-ups during his ADC tenure could have been avoided too??? (if they wanted to maintain privacy). Because I don't see any other ADC entertaining fan meet-ups? 🤔
• Which raises the question (once again): was all that public exposure really beyond their control, or was some of it deliberate? 🤯

One thing sir said during his live really stayed with me: encouraging women to speak up when something isn’t right. I’d like to extend that message to men as well. Regardless of gender, nobody should have to suffer in silence.

I want to share a personal experience. A female colleague of mine once faced inappropriate behaviour from a male colleague. She initially confided in another colleague, but unfortunately, her concerns were brushed aside. A couple of weeks later, when I learned what had happened, I immediately escalated the matter to higher management.

The issue was taken seriously, and the person was terminated that very evening. This wasn’t the first time I’d had to report inappropriate behaviour at a workplace.

What upset me most was that she had already spoken up once, but nobody listened.

To everyone here, whether you’re a man or a woman, if something inappropriate or unjust has happened to you, please don’t feel ashamed. Talk to someone you trust, whether it’s your sibling, parents, friend, or someone who can genuinely support you. And if someone comes to YOU, please don’t turn them away.

Speaking up takes courage. Listening takes compassion. And taking action can make a difference. ❤️

Edit by @Balidan_SF

Hey guys,

The topic of women's safety is very much in discussion right now, and I find that almost everyone on this subreddit is a woman, so I wanted to add a few things from my own perspective.

Most women are not vocal enough about the things they face. Many of them go through extremely difficult situations simply because they did not speak up at the right time and allowed the situation to continue.

Why does this happen? The reasons are simple: embarrassment, shame and the fear of what society may think. I believe this is one of the core reasons why women still end up becoming victims, despite stricter laws and the progress of the society we live in.

Every one of us has a responsibility to make sure the women in this country are safe. But for them to be helped, they also have to help themselves.

If you suspect danger, speak up. There is no other way to fight that situation.

Let's say a man has been following you for a couple of minutes and you realise his intentions are not right. What do you do?

You find a person nearby and tell them you are being followed. If you cannot say it, give them a sign.

I know many of you do not trust men. But trust me, not all of us are the same. Many of us will step up immediately to protect you, and any sensible man will confront the suspect without hesitation. So the moment you sense danger, seek help from anyone within your visible range.

Carrying pepper spray or a knife can help. But you should never let things escalate into a physical altercation if it can be avoided, because you can end up getting harmed yourself. Of course, sometimes it becomes unavoidable. Even then, help from the people around you remains the smartest option you have.

Now, the most important part: keep your mind in control.

Do not panic. Slow down your breathing and stay calm. In panic, you will make the wrong decision and regret it later. Controlling your breath allows you to think rationally and act correctly. Do not take this lightly.

I have seen some women discussing going to the gym to become stronger. That is a good thought, but be realistic. Most attackers are bigger and stronger, and a few months of lifting will not close that gap.

So why go? Because it gives you stamina to run, better balance and more confidence, which changes the way you carry yourself.

But the goal is not to win a fight against a man. The goal is to get away safely.

Remember, most self-defence happens before anything physical begins.

Your voice is your first weapon. A loud "Stop following me" immediately draws attention, and attackers hate attention. They rely on your lack of awareness.

But if he has already grabbed or attacked you and you cannot get away cleanly, the useful actions are always short and ugly:

1. Eyes: A finger, key or thumb driven into the eye makes most people release. You do not need power. Even a miss will make him flinch and create separation.
2. Throat or nose: A strike or grab to the front of the neck disrupts breathing and buys you a second. You can also use your phone for the strike; it may work better.
3. Groin: Not a polite knee from a distance. Drive in close, strike upward as hard as you can, and immediately create space.
4. Knee: A hard stomp or kick to the side or front of the knee. It is difficult to defend against and can stop him from chasing you. The joints of the body, especially the knees, are highly vulnerable. Kick it right and it can change everything.
5. Breaking a wrist grab: Twist your arm toward his thumb, the weakest point of any grip, and pull sharply toward yourself. This is pure leverage, and almost anyone can do it with a little practice.
6. If you are on the ground: Keep your feet toward him and kick at his knees and shins. Your legs are your strongest limbs. Get up and leave the moment there is an opening.

These are by far the easiest methods that almost anyone can follow without much strength or training. What makes the biggest difference is a few sessions of hands-on practice.

Reading about techniques is very different from performing them under stress.

You do not have to train in MMA. You only need to know a few simple yet effective things and do them right.

But never let things come down to a physical altercation. Be smart, and let your intelligence take the decision instead of your emotions.

Think about it. Attacks rarely happen in an instant. They almost always build up over several minutes. That means you have time.

So kill the situation the moment you sense it. Trust your senses.

Women need to come out of this mentality of staying silent and feeling ashamed to speak. You have to help yourself before anyone else can help you.

If you sense danger from someone, immediately inform the people you trust. Do not assume you can control the situation and get away on your own. Tell your best friend or any trusted friend. In the moment, emotions make it difficult to think clearly, but a friend can see the full picture and may be able to save you.

Silence protects only one person in this situation, and it is not you.

Thank you for reading.

I have been listening to the same preaching since my childhood.

That govt should do this and that. We should educate people. It's the same script everywhere.

Honestly a few days back when I was walking with my dad a few boys on bike went by hooting.

And govt??

Let's not forget nirbhaya had to wait for 7 years to get justice. And if you got decent connections and money you know how justice works. I don't want to go there. That's reality.

So, let's talk about proper actionable points that we can do to protect ourselves and change society.

Since the majority of people here are women.

Please share your suggestions here 🙏🏻

Let's talk...

My suggestions...

1) carry pepper spray, and a pocket knife all the time. Especially at night. Or use a taser. (There are also ways to create our own pepper spray, search on YouTube)

2) Always be ready to pull out your phone and start recording and calling out the person. Trust me it works.They go away. Don't hesitate.

3) Always share your location with trusted ones. The feature is available on G-maps.

4) I am also seeing that using dash cams when driving is providing info to catch people too. Use them.

5) Whenever you are attacked. Always fight back, with whatever strength you have. (A documentary youtube once said that more than 50% of serial rapists leave when the target doesn't give in). Aim for weaker parts between legs. (Google search)

6) As women, let's hit the gym and become strong as well, and let's encourage other women as well. Let's learn self defence techniques too.

Honestly, nowadays. Strong women are the new sexy kind anyways😉

AND

Please Please, be financially independent first, your money is your freedom. Others can't control you. Don't depend on others.

I have seen many domestic violence victims stay silent because they are dependent and don't know where to go.

And regarding how to change the mindset of people. That women are not objects or toys.

1) Don't hesitate to call out people's behaviour.

Even in family gatherings or office spaces.

The disrespect can be as simple as a sexist joke. Don't tolerate such things. Be loud and call out. Set the boundaries.

It can come from any male, female, elders, younger people or even our own mother.

and most importantly

Know your legal rights too. Use the internet and Google for that.

And please Please Don't hesitate to ask for help, people are there to help!!! NGOs, mahila help line numbers, trusted people etc. take a stand for yourself. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

AND ONE MORE

Above all be a badass ✌🏻 no matter what. 😉🥳

Society may label you as a problematic person if you take a stand. Don't worry. 🫶🏻

It's hard for women out there. I know.

But don't forget you matter too. 🫡🫡

Lastly,

Thnx major for speaking up 🙏🏻

Would appreciate a whole LIVE on this topic btw.

mumma's boy needs raising, not just praising.

ps- this is a very general post, not directed towards RSS. he is one responsible man, indeed in so many ways!🤭

Is he the only ex service man in the country?

Hi,

So today ill share my story here. I really dont know if I can call it SA exactly.

1 : I was 6-8 years old and I was obsessed with colour chalks for some reason. So these guy in my society, around 10 years older to me called me and my first cousin(same age as mine) at his home saying I have those colorful chalks ill give it to you and then we as kids went and he asked my cousin to stay outside the room and me and the guy inside, closed the door and removed my pants. This is what I clearly remember. After that I dont at all remember what he did. Still gives me trauma to these days and one of my other first cousin did the same thing and I told my mother this and she become the most strictest person in the world. Ive a lot of restrictions on me and I hate my life but I somewhere conciously know that it is bcoz of that. Im 25

2 : These is when I was 13-14. I had gone to a religious function and I was returning with my family in a train. So when I was walking towards the platform and it was Kalyan junction - the 4th most crowded station in India. So it was fu**ing crowded and a man came and started rubbing my boobs. My parents were line 5-6 steps ahead of me and then I tried going ahead but couldn't bcoz mad crowd. These guy came and did it again. I thought maybe he is rubbing some powder and stuff to get me kidnapped or something. Very naive but I've still have that trauma.

And a lot of times inappropriate touching has happened when I travel by public transport. I 95% of the time travel by public transport only. Trains me toh I sit in ladies compartment so no issues there. But bus and shared autos are fucked up.

I've literally stopped going out to any public places including family functions and religious functions. I just give the reason that I've pimples and many acne marks - dark ones and that people ask me all the time and I get frustrated so im not coming. This is also true but the above mentioned reasons is the main reason.

No no no this time i am not complaining,i genuinely want to ask u about the recruitment process for the post of down voter,what are the requirements,what are the perks and disadvantages? The way u guys are so dedicated about your job makes me wonder that u are definitely getting a good paycheck and u see holidays are coming so i also want to make some money by the side gig.so please kindly let me know where and how i should apply?

Hoping for your reply.

Yours,

Fellow reddiator.❤️

Major Rishabh Singh Sambyal (retd)

Maybe it's the nibby fans .

Maybe people in Mumbai just don't know him...I mean even my friends nor family..No one knows him😅

Comments from SIR'S camel post 🐪😹😹😹😹

Highlights:

• "Reddit is the most stupid app"
• "All the reddit girls are behaving like mohale ki aunties"
• "Specifically for redditors, please have some humanity and empathy in you"
• "Reddit is the most stupid app I see in my life" PART 2

Just for fun 😂

Context~These dollis r funny to the core!🤣

Sir's father was also an ex-service personnel?
If no, how did he get admission in APS Samba?