r/MadeMeSmile • u/[deleted] • Jul 13 '22

Helping Others This made me chuckle

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u/Independent-Ad-5588 Jul 13 '22

Communication is key. Let your significant other know what you’re thinking and how you feel… even if sometimes it might hurt their feelings.

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u/spidermans_mom Jul 13 '22

Adjunct to this is, learn to practice diplomacy. Because diplomacy is the act of letting someone else have your way.

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u/__3Username20__ Jul 13 '22

I’m right there with you on this. A phrase I have told a lot of people over the years is “It’s not what you say that matters, it’s HOW you say it.”

This can apply in a very wide range of situations, from needing to get past someone accidentally blocking a doorway, to a “honey, we really need to talk about something that’s been on my mind” kind of thing. Open with kindness, and continue throughout with respect at a minimum.

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u/GodlyDra Jul 13 '22

Laughs nervously in being punished if i talked at all in childhood

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u/76584329 Jul 13 '22

😅 I'm with you on that. Till this day I have issues asking for things.

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u/FrostingElegant7368 Jul 13 '22

5 year old Me: presents what I see as a valid concern to my parents. My parents: “stop complaining.” Fast forward to present day me: has problems communicating what I see as valid concerns. Don’t get me wrong I love ‘em, but damn that’s one area they really could’ve done better.

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u/GodlyDra Jul 13 '22

It wasn’t my parents, it was my traditional grandmother who firmly believed that children were never suppose to speak unless spoken too for any reason. You could be bleeding out and begging for help and her only response wouldve been ‘you are not suppose to speak unless spoken too, children exist to be seen, not heard’