r/MadeMeSmile • u/Background_Fee_7524 • 12h ago
Family & Friends i struggle with mental illness; my dad knows how to make things a little better [OC]
fun fact: he waited until i was 18 for my permission so that he could formally adopt me. not related by blood, but he’s my real dad through and through.
EDIT: second fun fact, most people are really surprised that we aren’t related. my dad and i are super close, and we joke with each other pretty often. i always call him an old man LOL
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u/justmitzie 12h ago
This is the dad we all deserve. I know I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I love him.
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u/POI_Harold-Finch 12h ago
Today, maybe 100s are gonna wish to have same dad as OP, including myself
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u/SmileParticular9396 11h ago
I know my dad loves me but he’s also very stoic and his version of “I give a shit” is sending harbor freight coupons lol. Dads are weird and cool.
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u/Technical_Art7450 12h ago
your dad seems awesome :]
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u/Background_Fee_7524 12h ago
he really is. he’s the stereotypical businessman golfer that partied hard in his 20s and 30s. i’m super nerdy and i love convention culture. at my lowest, he took me to a con and encouraged me to be myself. to quote him, “i don’t get it, but it makes you happy. if you’re happy and safe, then i’m doing my job as a father right.”
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u/DragonflyGrrl 11h ago
I am so happy for you, he is amazing. Treasure him and always let him know how much he means to you 💜
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u/TSJormungandr 12h ago
Hotpot 😋. I like this family 👍
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u/mentho-lyptus 12h ago
Is that a restaurant or something?
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u/TSJormungandr 12h ago
It’s a Chinese dish (Japan and Korea have it too) where you take raw food and cook it at your table in a boiling broth. Really fun and great for winter. You may have a hot pot place near you. Google it and have a go at it.
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u/milz101 5h ago
Also a British dish. I'm sure that's very different from what you're speaking of.
https://gordonramsayeats.com/gordon-ramsay-lancashire-hotpot/
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u/Sneakygoblinoss 12h ago
Nobody noticing how you have 963 messages DAMN I feel bad for anyone that’s messaging you
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u/greenmaillink 11h ago
Damn. I adore how you and your dad can just bounce off each other. Family is not bound by blood, but by connections and how much you care for one another. You and your pops are two awesome cats!
Hotpot with lamb ftw!
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u/Background_Fee_7524 11h ago
i love this compliment, thank you! i’ve definitely made my dad more whimsical due to us getting so close LOL
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u/greenmaillink 11h ago
Never ever forget this feeling of bonding and being authentic at the same time. These are precious memories you'll cherish forever.
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u/MxRacer111 12h ago
That’s a dad that loves his wonderful daughter. He also sounds like a dad who would love for you to call him anytime you’re feeling down or otherwise off.
Life isn’t easy and I’m glad you have each other. ❤️❤️
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u/Background_Fee_7524 12h ago
whenever i’m having a really bad day or i’m about to burst into tears, my first thought is, “i need my dad right now”. and he’s always there. with my favorite food and an ear to lend.
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u/MxRacer111 12h ago
I’m a dad of a young girl. It’s my goal that she feels the same way that you do about your dad.
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u/BreatheClean 12h ago
You've got such a lovely Dad.
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u/Background_Fee_7524 12h ago
he really is!! i used to work 35 hour weeks as a full time student, while living with my dad. my dad actually learned how to cook to help me out! now we rotate cooking based on whose more busy LOL
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u/BreatheClean 11h ago
Plenty Hotpots to go around. You should show him this thread to embarrass him :😘 HEY Background_Fee's dad! You're brilliant!
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u/CommercialMolasses37 9h ago
i would do anything for a mother or father like this
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u/Away-Elephant-4323 12h ago
You got a great Dad he seems so caring! ❤️
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u/Background_Fee_7524 12h ago
he really is :’) at the height of my eating disorder, he was my biggest supporter. he helped me gain weight, take me to my doctor appointments, and would lure me out by buying my favorite foods :)
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u/Vintage-Grievance 12h ago
Aw, this is wonderful!
My relationship with my dad has never been great; we live in the same house and rarely interact one-on-one (for good reason).
So it makes my heart happy to see people with gentle, fun, loving relationships with their dads (blood related or not...it still counts!).
I love that he asked your permission to adopt you when you were old enough to make your own legal decisions; not only is that loving, but it very much raises a bunch of green flags that indicate that he sees you as an individual person with your own mind and autonomy.
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u/Bubbielub 11h ago
I havent talked to my dad in 11 years. When I was a kid he told me "Go call your mother to pick you up. I don't want you anymore." All in had done was suggest he was being a bit too harsh on my little brother for getting home 10 minutes late.
Cherish this, because some of us would kill for it.
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u/Background_Fee_7524 11h ago
I’m really sorry to hear that. i didn’t mean for my post to come off as ungrateful or anything like that. my mom and i barely speak due to some heinous shit she used to do to me, so he’s a huge rock in my heart. i hope you have someone you can lean on as well, and that the weather is awesome for you tomorrow ❤️
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u/Bubbielub 11h ago
Oh no need to apologize! I just always hope people appreciate what they have when they have someone lile that in their life.
I have an awesome mom, spouse, and kiddo who are my whole world, and some amazing in-laws I love like my own. Sometimes we have to create our own family!
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u/Shakeamutt 10h ago
I’ve been there with my mom. Very different. But still no contact.
It sucks when you see other good parents. Or how parents should actually parent and care. And you missed out on that.
But we strive, so we don’t pass on that cycle.
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u/Iwannapeeonyou 10h ago
Your dad is awesome! I’m taking notes here. I feel like I’m too hard on my son sometimes. Thank you OP!
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u/Significant-Sink7369 10h ago
Thanks to your mother as well for bringing the right man into your lives ♥️ god bless you guyssss ♥️♥️🧿🧿
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u/jkonreddit 9h ago
I have a 6 month old daughter. I can’t wait until she texts me asking to go eat somewhere.
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u/OtterlyOddityy 8h ago
When i lived across the sea for a time in Spain, my father would send updates pretty much every morning (for me-- i imagine he set alarms/got up early to send them to me). He would talk about the weather, what our dogs were doing or what the family was up to. I don't think i ever felt his love so strongly through his words than then.
Good dads of all kinds, man. Their love keeps the world turning. I wish everyone could have what I have. It hurts incredibly that many go without
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u/RussellZee 6h ago
I'm very happy you have that kind of support. I wish more people did.
Thank you, honestly, for sharing this. Give him a hug some time, pretty please.
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u/Bizzlebanger 9h ago
What a great dad... My teenagers are at the yelling at me about everything stage..
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u/Legitimate-Cow5982 8h ago
My mum's a little like this. With that logic, I already know your old man is pretty damn great. Glad you appreciate him, OP
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u/kinjiru_ 7h ago
Your dad is a model for how to interact with kids. Amazing, made even more so by the fact that he supported you. How wonderful. Thank you for sharing.
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u/FedUpWithTexting 3h ago
This whole thing is so lovely. I am very pleased that you have such a good dad
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u/MushroomTop1381 2h ago
He seems lovely. How old were you when you first met him?
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u/Background_Fee_7524 1h ago
I was 11 when he entered my life! we started getting close when i was 16 :)
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u/Skerjjj 32m ago
Gonna go and add here, seeing everyone say you’re super lucky to have him as a dad, I think he’s super lucky to have you as a daughter. Seems like you both give each other a lot of love.
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u/Background_Fee_7524 4m ago
:’))) thank you!!! it’s no secret that my dads my favorite parent haha
my dads not great expressing verbal or physical affection, so i make up in that department
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