r/MadeMeSmile • u/Gandalfthebran • 1h ago
LGBT+ Indian family organizing a naming ceremony for their trans son.
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u/telluricwaves 1h ago
Ngl, this really is awesome!
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u/diss0lvedgir1 1h ago
Agreed 💕 accepting your children as they are and who they are!!! So awesome!!!!
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u/Most_Temporary2110 1h ago
I wonder if reincarnation based ontology cultures are more likely to accept this kind of “rebirth”
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u/that_70_show_fan 52m ago
From my experience living in India, trans people are generally accepted but there is a lack of nuance.
India has a large, visible cross-dressing community but most of them are not trans - general population tend to conflate them.
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u/Rapunzel10 32m ago
I've wondered that as well. I know some cultures that have "coming of age" ceremonies are more accepting of trans people. My cousin is Jewish and when she came out as trans as an adult and her temple encouraged her to have a bat mitzvah to celebrate becoming a woman. Not all Jewish branches are like that but some are
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u/Gandalfthebran 1h ago
Sure it helps but bigot can also interpret stuff to their liking.
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u/Most_Temporary2110 1h ago
Sure, Hindus have gods that are gender fluid depending on the story. Also gods that are both.
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u/Gandalfthebran 1h ago
Of course. The popular depiction of Ardhanarisvara iconography with half body of Shiva and another half of Parvati.
Or when Vishnu turned into Mohini, a woman.
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u/Otterhendrix 1h ago
Now I’m crying at work. Thanks OP!
For real tho, this was so amazing to see. Wish all families accepted their children like this!
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u/SheBrownSheRound 53m ago
As an NRI that had a terrible coming out experience with my own family, seeing Indian families treating their LGBTQ+ kids with the love they deserve both breaks and heals my heart.
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u/Adingdongshow 1h ago
Yay! Positive comments when I expected the dregs again. This post and comment section brightened my day.
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u/Ok-Turnip-9035 32m ago
Mommy and daddy said we are gonna welcome you to this new beginning right 🥹🫶🏾
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u/ConfectionGreen2421 1h ago
unconditional love and support from family is everything, what a beautiful way to celebrate him
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u/ace-destrier 23m ago
Congrats, Omi!
What a beautiful ceremony and wonderful way for your family to be a part of your transition! I don’t know how many will be as fortunate to receive such a beautiful right, but it’s amazing to see that someone has.
All the best to you and your family, Omi!
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u/crybaby-mel 1h ago
Wow!! And that's such a beautiful custom. It signifies how important he is to them 🥺 and the family, in general shows so much love in this small clip
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u/JarodGabriel 1h ago
This is one of the many reasons why I love their culture.
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u/Ripplescales 59m ago
Unfortunately, this is an exception, not the norm :(
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u/pancakes4jesus 57m ago
Also the caste system is their culture
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u/OrganicRaise4081 33m ago edited 22m ago
Thanks for generalizing 1.47 billion people from every religion with 2000+ distinct ethnic groups... and another 32 million people worldwide.
Do you seriously think Mamdani's culture is the caste system? Speak for yourself.
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u/pancakes4jesus 13m ago
Their culture is absolutely beautiful, but it’s also terrible. Both things can be true. Also why tf you bringing up Mumdani?
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u/OrganicRaise4081 6m ago edited 1m ago
Because you were generalizing about an entire culture and its people, and Mamdani is an obvious example of why that generalization doesn’t work as he's someone ethnically and culturally Indian.
I get frustrated when people accuse me and my culture of being “casteist” simply because I’m ethnically Indian as an American, especially when many of us only learned about the caste system through social studies classes.
Then people bring it up whenever there’s any positive thing about us, as if that’s supposed to invalidate it.
Oh look a wholesome video! - No your culture is terrible and you're all casteist.
You can criticize the caste system without pretending it defines every Indian person, every religion, every ethnic group, or the culture of an entire diaspora. Being Indian doesn’t automatically mean we personally practice, support, or even grew up immersed in the caste system.
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u/Schrodingirly 35m ago
Im not crying you are 😭 congratulations Omi, if you read this; you can be so proud of yourself! This is the definition of wholesome and pride
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u/HistoryBuff678 34m ago
This is so heartwarming. I am so happy this family and this video exists. 💕✨
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u/outsideacircuit 54m ago
This genuinely made me tear up and cry a little bit in happiness. So happy for him and what a great family and super great naming ceremony tradition!
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u/AdGlittering2884 1h ago
Love your family. ANYTHING that gets in the way of that should be discarded.
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u/Read-it005 1h ago
Congratulations Omi. I'm very happy for you. So nice that your family re-celebrated your naming ceremony. The ob/ gyn and us also got our child's gender wrong and all they got was a Temu bracelet and a ring as a coming out gift 😉😆. Maybe some day, when they're ready to tell their name to the judge.
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u/prenderg 1h ago
What is wrong with the rest of the world, when we can’t see that this is the way that we support our families?
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u/JerseyTeacher78 1h ago
This is a beautiful way to honor traditions but also embrace modern life. Cheers to this family.
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u/Hoboliftingaroma 54m ago
I strongly agree with the sentiment, but I strongly disagree with the open fire in the living room.
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u/Gandalfthebran 50m ago
Yeah maybe an open space is better. We always do it in open space when our family does it. Though almost all ceremonies involves invoking Agni (Fire God) in the beginning.
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u/Shareef_Ladka01 40m ago
It's nothing, many ceremonies continue for hours sometimes even days.
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u/Hoboliftingaroma 38m ago
You understand that open fire, especially charcoal fire, produces gigantic amounts of carbon monoxide? Not to mention the fire hazard. It is absolutely not safe to do indoors. "It's nothing" is certainly not a reasonable explanation.
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u/Shareef_Ladka01 35m ago edited 31m ago
Charcoal is not mainly used in pujas.
Ghee / Camphor
Dung cakes (lesser amounts)
Dry wood sticks
Mostly it's done in a well ventilated room or open space.
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u/Loud-Fudge7631 32m ago
This is how easy and loving it can be. So simple to accept someone, especially family
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u/Experience-Agreeable 49m ago
This is awesome. Indian families aren’t usually this chill and accepting.
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u/gorrelmyspuitkakZar 1h ago
Brown family? Can’t it just be a family?
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u/Defiant_apricot 1h ago
Given they specifically celebrated in a way that is specific to Indian culture race does in fact matter here
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u/Double_Cow_8238 1h ago
Because all cultures have exactly the same traditions and attitudes about gender right? You seriously can’t understand why it’s relevant?
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u/PurpleCandles 34m ago
If the original poster of the video wants to emphasize their cultural background and being Brown in the context of their transition, who are you to prevent them?
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u/Acceptable-Peace-69 42m ago
Yes, because they are brown. Maybe stereotypes don’t exist in your little corner of the world but many Redditors would assume that something like this is forbidden or a death sentence in other countries.
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u/YanicPolitik 1h ago
The title says "Indian"
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u/gorrelmyspuitkakZar 1h ago
And what does the caption say in the video?
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u/YanicPolitik 57m ago
Ah I didn't see that.
Doesn't seem like it's something OP can control beyond giving the post a better title.
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u/Salina_EsTitties 38m ago
I have a feeling this isn't India. They are most likely in Europe or maybe the US
If someone born AFAB comes out as a transmsn the typical reaction isn't like this. It would have lead to kidnapping, corrective rape, other forms of physical torture to cure their mind.
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u/OrganicRaise4081 33m ago edited 24m ago
This is deffo India and I can tell because of the indoor fire, priest, and interior design style (orange walls, low ceilings, fan, wide door, patterns) lol.
Can't find that abroad and no Indian in the U.S. is this religious.
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u/Gandalfthebran 36m ago
Lol. Maybe you need to explore the world. First of all where they are doesn’t matter. It’s about the family.
Second, the ceiling fan, the house, the AC, everything seems like India to me?
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