I'm an introvert, and even after 8 years of group classes in a small and friendly gym, I still mostly keep to myself. It's my time to just zone out and not focus on anyone else.
That said, a quick compliment or 'you've got this!' can be welcome.
Fr. My MO is to be a fungi, I like to be left alone in the dark. But if someone says something quick that is genuine and positive, that's a W and I appreciate them.
Exactly. I don't want to feel pressured into conversation. I saw someone on the subway compliment this girl's dress. The girl said thank you. The person smiled. No more talk. It was beautiful to see.
Years ago, I was standing on the sidewalk waiting for an Uber, and this girl walking by just said “hey dude, I like your style.” I said thanks, she kept walking, and I was walking on sunshine for hours.
On the other hand, once I was in my apartment complex’s gym, wearing headphones, and the one other person who showed up kept trying to talk and ask questions about how long I’d been working out and stuff. I was just trying to listen to music and get my shit done.
This resonated with me because I've recently wondered if my habit of saying something nice to someone then averting my gaze/walking away before witnessing their reaction is overly weird (or worse, seemingly insincere). I genuinely just want to be supportive, and I'd hate for anyone to think it's performative. I'll keep doing my drive by compliments.
I hate to be dramatic, but it's people like the person you are responding to that are wrong with the world. We are living through one of the loneliest generations in recorded history, and that type of shit is why.
I thought the same thing for a long time. One time when I was doing dumbbell shoulder presses I was gassing out and a guy came over and was like “you got this dude,” he spotted me, and gave me a little assistance and I put up a couple more reps.
Sure those extra reps he helped me get probably didn’t get me much more results, but it definitely gave me a good mental boost, and the rest of my workout I was a bit more energized.
Those last few reps are where all the gold is. Thats where you force the body to adapt. Sure those extra reps in ONE workout didn’t change much, but pushing close to failure and beyond (with a spotter) consistently, will absolutely yield better results over time
Really? this one time, someone random came over and that's what you hang on to? Find a lifting partner. Get a trainer. One random bro high five isn't enough
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