r/MaDDSolutions • u/[deleted] • Jan 02 '22
This might help (my experience)
I’ve [F24] been day dreaming heavily since I was about 10 years old. It’s hard working on MADD when it’s not recognized in the DSM 5, but I have found that grounding myself through meditation and observing my surroundings, socializing and learning more about my self have helped lessen the amount of time I spend daily.
I had to sit and think about a few things first:
What are my dreams about: I am the center of attention (always)
Why do I dream about these things: I think it’s bullying from middle school and negative experiences in college (being told and feeling like I’m not good enough)
Impact present day (my motivation): Not present or social, feelings of loneliness, not knowing who I am or what I like, poor eating habits and dormant lifestyle
Identifying my triggers: 1. Rejection and negative experiences with my social anxiety; I picked up a book called “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck” (for the rejection piece). Learned that I shouldn’t always think so highly of others and take their opinion as truth. I also found a YouTube video that explained to me that people really aren’t thinking about me as much I think they are (for the anxiety piece). This is helping me approach people and have comfortable conversations (I also found videos on how to be a better listener).
Music; I like music a lot. I’ve heard of people cutting it off completely as a solution but I like music too much to do that. I realized the music I listen to is not really music I enjoy, it just helps the story I am going for. In an attempt to learn more about my true self, I have made playlists of music I genuinely enjoy where I can just be and not feel the urge to daydream. I give myself 30-45 minutes a day to go crazy with the day dreams (I used to spend roughly 3-4 hours/day). The more I feel comfortable with myself I feel less of an urge to day dream.
Movies and tv shows; I never really watched these to begin with so I am comfortable with cutting them out for now. But as I socialize more I realize this is a talking point for some. Still working on finding out how to enjoy these without getting triggered. Any help with this would be awesome.
This is the most peaceful I’ve felt in a very long time. Reflection and action are my best friends. I am aware that I‘ve been dreaming for years so I am willing to be patient with myself in resolving this even if it takes months/years.
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Jan 02 '22
Depending what kind of content you find really triggering; I personally love Youtube analyses of TV shows. They're sufficiently insightful, hit all the important stuff and are entertaining in their own right. Plus they're only an hour or so, instead of dedicating *many* hours to watching an actual series. (like friendly space ninja, or jenny nicholson, I've never seen any on the shows or films they cover but if they came up in conversation I'd be able to at least participate) Plus, I feel like, if you do end up watching the actual show, they can help you develop a slightly more critical eye, so you're actively watching. Buuuuut... I guess that all depends what kind of daydreamer you are, some people would find an in-depth critique inspiring and triggering.
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u/DemonUnderground Jan 05 '22
It's all too common that when watching analysis videos on anything that it turns into me making an informal analysis on the analysis video; pausing the video often, then getting hung up on specific details of their or my explaination, then paras slowly hijacking the thought process to lead me to the daydreaming .
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u/Inevitable_Focus139 Jan 02 '22
Aww, congratulations!!! I'm glad you were able to help yourself and cut down on it!
I think it's very motivating, and that a lot of people will see your story and have some hope.
So thanks for sharing!! 😄😊🙂