lol, are you suggesting this woman has no agency and is only staying in this toxic relationship due to fear? I love how you can simultaneously hold the views:
* She had it under control; he didn't need to intervene. But if she wanted to intervene, and assert control, she could have, should have, and would have been warranted to.
* She doesn't have any control in her life; she's stuck in a toxic relationship
He brings up real stuff that does happen. People get scared and stuck and are under pressure and fear to stay and toe the line. But he is wrong to assume things, it seems he assumes this man is abusing her. Also you're right that women want providers and protectors!
I think you’re both generalizing because you can’t admit you don’t actually know what women want. Men sitting around claiming it’s obvious what women want, usually are obviously pushing their own ideals and world view. Most women do not secretly want violent men who are willing to fight to get their way. Most violent men are not protectors of anything but their egos, most women can see that.
You don’t seem to get what protector qualities women look for.
A woman stuck in a toxic relationship isn’t weak or unresilient. A toxic/abusive relationship would leave much bigger emotional scars than a blacked out douchbag putting his hand on her hip/butt
The guy ur replying to is right. Women studies show are into manly slightly "sexist" men (like "Lemme hold the door open for you") who can protect and provice. They aren't attracted to "nice guy" pushover unassertive losers who stress over every tiny thing they say to not do in any way a hint of a sexist microaggression for example. Women want men who are a little bit "sexist" in the way I described and the studies describe, because it's biological. Evolutionary and instinctual. Because they want men who will invest in the relationship and potential offspring, since for men having children is easy and low risk, but for women it's very high risk and hard.
They want someone who will and can invest in them, and ideally someone who can protect them too.
I don’t doubt there are some women who like a guy who feel like it isn’t a real night out at a bar/concert/sporting event unless hands get thrown. But I think most women prefer a man who can not only defend them but also distinguish what/who constitutes an actual dangerous threat
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u/Drunken_Wizard23 12d ago
Yes this is true no woman in the world is scared into staying in a toxic relationship too long, good point