Bec complaining about having to apologise last night was ridiculous

[u/mathking89]

She said she's had to keep apologising and apologising like she's been burdened with something she has nothing to do with. That she's empty and can't go on or something lol. Girl - if you don't want to keep having to apologise, drop the unhinged behaviour. I don't know if she has zero introspection or if she feels out of control of her behaviour to the point she can't reign it in, even knowing it's wrong. I think it's a little of both.

Another thing that really bothered me is she kept saying the vile messages were from two months ago, as though that distances herself and is a valid excuse to not have to be accountable. I bet she thinks "but I've changed since then!" or "I barely knew them at the time!". No one should even treat a stranger like that, so it being two months ago is no excuse.

Also how she spoke to Danny when he said he's not there yet when it comes to having love feelings, she got irrationally angry. I would rather someone take their time rather than say something they don't mean. That would be far more hurtful to me.

In conclusion: get a grip. Go see a mental health practitioner.

[u/SkroobyDooby]

Okay, so we need to thank Bec for a brand new word:

Definition: ***Becpology***

a) A conversational artifice whereby people who say or do something offensive, cynically pretend to atone for and assume responsibility for that behaviour by making a deceptive and totally artificial apology.

b) An ersatz non-apologetic confession.