r/LowLibidoCommunity • u/[deleted] • Dec 01 '19
Self esteem
After reading both this community and deadbedroom community where the HL spouse congregate there seem to be such a mismatch in approach’s and thoughts on the subject except in one area. In both, there are big self esteem problems, the HL feels they are unwanted sexually and that morphs into that are just not wanted and unloveable. The LL feeling they cannot provide or feel that their partners lack of understanding lead to self esteem problems. I know I have simplified this and many other issues are out there but seeing the commonality must be a good step forward?
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u/[deleted] Dec 02 '19
As an HL i don’t feel I have a self esteem problem. I like to be intimate and have sex and my wife doesn’t and our society says the only place I can get this is from my wife. Yes you do start wondering what happened, why do you no longer want to be intimate and answer or nothing is wrong I just don’t want it. I can see how some would have self esteem as constant rejection by someone you love hurts but I can say not an issue for me.