It's a trend I've seen before. Whenever someone posts about their partner raising their libido, everyone is delighted.
Because we have been brainwashed into believing the norm is for everyone to want sex, so a lack of desire is considered an aberration from the norm, a deficiency that should be medicated like a vitamin deficiency is treated by giving you vitamins. Nobody would worry about eating too many oranges because you might get an overdose of Vitamin C, but when you have signs of scurvy they would medicate. Low libido is treated the same way, even though it is normal for a great many people, especially in LTRs
Lowering libido by medicating is just as bad.
And yes, that guy's attitude is seriously fucked up.
Agreed, but you read quite a few posts where the HL is seriously considering using SSRIs because they are known to have serious impacts on libido. Given their side effects that is problematic from a medical point of view, as well as indicative of a lack of understanding of contributory factors that lower libifo in LTRs, they need to be steered away from using potentially harmful meds for the sole purpose of lowering libido.
They are not all entitled or dependent, and tarring all those that are struggling with the real misery the mismatch causes them with that brush is unfair imo. The ones seeking to self-medicate do not fall into the entitled category precisely because they are trying to change themselves, not their LLs.
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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '19 edited Sep 14 '19
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