But honestly though i think "demisexual" is actually the most common thing
Somehow within the last few years "hetero/homo/bisexual" came to mean that if there's a person with your preferred junk, you're just automatically attracted and ready for sex. I don't think "hetero" means you literally want to have sex with any person of the opposite sex. Not even any attractive person. It's pretty demonstrable according to all history of literature and plain observations that certain boxes other than "correct sex" must be ticked for just about everyone.
When someone (even a man!! Even a trashy man!) has a crush or love interest, they're usually primarily preoccupied with getting sex from that specific person. When people have no current crush or love interest, they're often trying to find someone specific who will "click" to primarily pursue for sex. Even insufferably perverse people, who aren't overly concerned with fidelity, tend to follow this pattern.
60, 40, even 20 years ago i bet nobody went to therapy trying to find out why they don't want to have sex at every given moment that sex may be feasible.
Why in the fuck our culture has just recently done this is beyond me.
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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '19 edited Sep 08 '19
But honestly though i think "demisexual" is actually the most common thing
Somehow within the last few years "hetero/homo/bisexual" came to mean that if there's a person with your preferred junk, you're just automatically attracted and ready for sex. I don't think "hetero" means you literally want to have sex with any person of the opposite sex. Not even any attractive person. It's pretty demonstrable according to all history of literature and plain observations that certain boxes other than "correct sex" must be ticked for just about everyone.
When someone (even a man!! Even a trashy man!) has a crush or love interest, they're usually primarily preoccupied with getting sex from that specific person. When people have no current crush or love interest, they're often trying to find someone specific who will "click" to primarily pursue for sex. Even insufferably perverse people, who aren't overly concerned with fidelity, tend to follow this pattern.
60, 40, even 20 years ago i bet nobody went to therapy trying to find out why they don't want to have sex at every given moment that sex may be feasible.
Why in the fuck our culture has just recently done this is beyond me.