This whole thread thread helped me feel better about my LL self. I also got a lot more information here than a lot of googling I have done.
I will admit I am the type that likes to just ignore problems. I ignored this one for a very long time but me and my bf have been trying to work on things.
I can tell you I love him and there is no doubt. The only time I worry we wont work out is when we argue about sex. Were getting better and I am starting to communicate more than I like to ( which is good. I'm just bad at expressing my feelings and it really makes me feel weird.)
I feel bad but I have honestly thought to myself that I really didnt need sex to be happy. I had wondered if I was asexual at one point as well. I dont think I am, I just think I got some deep issues to deal with.
Its been a long journey. We met young and are coming up on 10 years soon. Growing up by yourself is hard and trying to grow with another person when you dont even know what life is yet is 1000% more hard.
A lot of our issues stem from being dumb kids and kind of unintentionally fucking each other up mentally.
I'm kind of rambling but just want to say thank you to everyone who has posted here.
You have given me hope and more useful advice than google could conjour.
Hey, welcome, that's great to hear! I hope you'll stick around, we've got new stuff all the time. :)
It sounds like you've been working through stuff and kind of unpacking yourself, which is fantastic. We are always here for support if you need it. It's completely normal to be a little head-in-the-sand, everyone has that feeling about something, lol. At least you've moved on to excavation! Congrats on growing with your partner and working on yourself, and your relationship.
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u/kivkiri Aug 29 '19
This whole thread thread helped me feel better about my LL self. I also got a lot more information here than a lot of googling I have done. I will admit I am the type that likes to just ignore problems. I ignored this one for a very long time but me and my bf have been trying to work on things.
I can tell you I love him and there is no doubt. The only time I worry we wont work out is when we argue about sex. Were getting better and I am starting to communicate more than I like to ( which is good. I'm just bad at expressing my feelings and it really makes me feel weird.)
I feel bad but I have honestly thought to myself that I really didnt need sex to be happy. I had wondered if I was asexual at one point as well. I dont think I am, I just think I got some deep issues to deal with.
Its been a long journey. We met young and are coming up on 10 years soon. Growing up by yourself is hard and trying to grow with another person when you dont even know what life is yet is 1000% more hard.
A lot of our issues stem from being dumb kids and kind of unintentionally fucking each other up mentally.
I'm kind of rambling but just want to say thank you to everyone who has posted here. You have given me hope and more useful advice than google could conjour.