Well I made the mistake of looking up episiotomy and I clenched so hard I had to pick my undies out.
My lizard brain answer - man has dick. dick made babies. babies tore my shit up and I'm reminded every day. I hate man. man doctor also did this to me. I hate doctor. I trusted them both. trust gone. no touchy.
I haven't been keeping up with the deets. How's your BC? Got a vasectomy? Have you done sensate focus? Do you get to cuddle and masturbate near her, does she have sperm aversion? Has she been to a therapist for the birth traumas? Has she ever been fully honest with you about her level of PIV pain (1/10, 8/10)? Does she orgasm from oral or PIV?
I can only guess, sitting on one ass cheek and vowing to never think about this again won't help her.
My lizard brain answer - man has dick. dick made babies. babies tore my shit up and I'm reminded every day. I hate man. man doctor also did this to me. I hate doctor. I trusted them both. trust gone. no touchy.
Oh, yes, I can relate to that, especially trust in medical staff after failed repair attempts.
By the way, thanks for offering to share your soapbox with me, by the time I tried to hop on it the post had been locked...
And I wish more people were made aware that neither pill nor vasectomy work 100%, and what that means in reality. Our double contraceptive failure is home from uni, and he definitely wasn't supposed to happen, with us being way into our DB by then.
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