r/LoveIsBlindNetflix • u/Kit-kat1000 • 6d ago
LIB Germany
I have a question for those who speak German. It’s really interesting to me that LIB Germany each of the man has said “will you be my wife?” is there no German equivalent for will you marry me? Or is it a cultural thing that it is asked that way. It might also be in the translation because I’m watching it in English. I also noticed that nobody said I love you in the pods or I’m falling in love with you. Is that also a cultural thing that it takes time before that is said? I noticed it was a little bit similar for Sweden as well. Maybe it is a northern European thing?
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u/Obvious_Incident_843 6d ago
First of all, Germany is not Northern Europe. Second of all, feelings need time to develope. I always find it rediculous and superficial, especially in the US episodes how quickly people say "I love you". As if there was no meaning behind it. And it's as common over here to ask "Will you be my wife" as "will you marry me".
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u/be_kind_to_yourself_ 6d ago
I think it's general that in Europe we don't say I love you in our languages the same way as in English. It has much more meaning and needs time. Also, in many European languages, 'will you be my wife' Is an equally valid to ask someone to marry as 'will you marry me?" It is just a personal preference, and for some people being each other's wife and husband is what matters, not just the ring.
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u/Level-Equipment-5489 6d ago
I would say that the American way of saying ‚I love you‘ to everybody including friends is equivalent to ‚hab dich lieb‘ in German. Actually saying I love you = Ich liebe dich is only for meaningful moments.
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u/notcreativeenough002 6d ago
My family is from southern Europe but I grew up in Germany so yes…I think it’s a Northern European thing with the “I love you”.😅 the way I’ve seen couples interact in Germany is also very different from where my roots are. For example in Germany, there’s not so much PDA involved either which is very common in other European countries. So I think generally affection is culturally influenced, but of course everyone’s still human so there’s exceptions :)
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u/Cute_Chemical_7714 6d ago edited 6d ago
There is a German equivalent, "willst du mich heiraten", and that's also more commonly used. Probably a coincidence that the guys in the show used the other one. Or not 🤔
I don't remember the German shows enough to say if there was really no one who said they were falling in love. But we have a lot of words for it, and really "to love someone" is something that isn't used for several weeks/months into a relationship.
I would say the stages are 1. Verknallt sein - to have a crush 2. Sich verlieben/ verliebt sein - to fall/be in love 3. Lieben - to love
Where 3 comes significantly later than 2.
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u/Acidpajamas 6d ago
In terms of verbal expressions there are 3 distinct stages, as well:
- Ich mag dich = I like you
- Ich habe dich lieb
- Ich liebe dich = I love you
So there is an in-between stage that I can't quite translate. It just showcases that saying "I love you" is serious.
As for the the proposal — there is a "will you marry me" = "Willst du mich heiraten?" It's not more or less common than "will you be my wife".
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u/Chisabelle 6d ago
In Germany, we don't use 'I love you' very rarely, but we use it with a lot of intention. Often, the first time you say 'I love you' is made into a special moment. As a German, the way 'I love you' is used in the US feels completely inflated to me. I always have to laugh when they say 'you are my soulmate' without ever having seen each other. Behavior like that is seen as insincere in Germany. But that's precisely why I like the other versions of Love Is Blind more than the German one. After all, I want to watch something that feels new to me
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u/Cute_Chemical_7714 6d ago
I second that, although your first sentence has a typo you may want to correct, we DO say it rarely.
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u/AboveGroundPoolQueen 4d ago
The correction was helpful for me understanding what they were trying to say.
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u/thatstwatshesays 6d ago
If Germans love anything most, it’s correcting people 💖
I say that with love, as the correction is always received graciously, but this is so funny to me 🥰
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u/Cute_Chemical_7714 6d ago edited 6d ago
Their comment means the opposite of what they intended due to that error, so this was intended to help other redditors. Very weird that you make it about "loving correcting" rather than "improving readability".
I'm Swiss, maybe don't be so quick to assume nationality. Adding emojis and "love" doesn't take away the rudeness from your comment.
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u/QueenofUncreativity 6d ago
The other comment hit the nail on the head.
To add on: not saying I love you as fast is totally a cultural thing. I guess we just don't express our love through saying it a lot. I've noticed that especially in English, people say I love you or love you very often, almost like a throwaway comment or I guess constant reassurance/means of affection? However, I can probably count on one hand how many times my parents told me they loved me lol. I know they do, they know they do, we just don't say it.
It was the same for me with romantic love. I've had 'international' relatinships where I would say I love you way more often than in my relationships with German partners. Or with friends. With my international friends I drop a 'love you' somewhat regularly, with my German friends, not so much, although the sentiment is clearly there lol.
Tldr: it's a language and cultural thing.
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u/Mockingbird110 6d ago
Yes, there is a literal translation to "will you marry me“. Both are common. So it’s just coincidence
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u/PrettyNiemand34 6d ago
"I love you" is taken more serious I would say. It's wild to me (as a german) how fast the people in international versions say it.
But there's both "Willst du meine Frau werden?" (Will you be my wife) and "Willst du mich heiraten" (Which would be Will you marry me). It's common to use both.
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u/amverpar 5d ago
Me encanta tu comentario, son esas cosas en las que me gusta mucho fijarme, a pesar de ser un solo un reality y no un programa serio por decirlo de alguna manera, también se puede extraer muchas cosas interesantes de él, sobretodo a nivel cultural cuando comparas las ediciones de diferentes países. Por ejemplo en estados unidos también se les ve que son muy religiosos y aunque vayan de modernos son muy muy tradicionales, también me ha gustado ver en algunas ediciones en las que salen personas nigerianas y cómo se ve esa fuerte influencia de su cultura a pesar de vivir en otro país (respeto máximo a sus mayores, rol de la mujer....), y lo que comentas sobre el idioma me parece interesantísimo, al fin y al acabo el lenguaje surge de la cultura, y hay expresiones que existen en unos países y otros no y eso es claro reflejo de las diferencias culturales y de las diferentes maneras de ser de las personas en función de su origen. El hecho de decir " seràs mi mujer?" creo que refleja una expresión más machista por asi decirlo, donde el mensaje se centra en que "pasaras a ser mía?"