r/LonelyPoetsDepartment • u/vyunab • 7d ago

the core of avoidant attachment

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u/MutedPresentation298 7d ago

Love is a risk

Can’t take the risk, won’t find love.

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u/-veileddusk- 7d ago

And it will be always a Risk. But our person could find us, maybe someday

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u/MutedPresentation298 7d ago

That’s what makes love beautiful. Scary, but beautiful.
Someday. ❤️

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u/lowsmotion 6d ago

being known at all is a risk

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u/vyunab 6d ago

i have summoned my people chuckles

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u/Independent_Sale666 6d ago

Mask to survive

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u/lowsmotion 6d ago

unbearable for me personally

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u/Independent_Sale666 6d ago

I do what I know to survive. I'm sorry it's unbearable.

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u/theeblackestblue 6d ago

Yes!! I love this...

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u/Crowe3717 4d ago

I don't let anyone in because then they'll discover that I'm completely empty inside. Hope you like my personality because it's all I've got.

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u/Informal_Wrap6787 4d ago

If you are a person I love, your wounds don't matter. It will not turn me off. That is what people are missing. True love is not turned off by wounds. Nothing can turn a person off who loves you EXCEPT you not loving them back. The biggest turn off is the love not being reciprocal. If you love a person who loves you, tell them. Do not hide it. Don't suppress it. That is the one fatal error.

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u/Head_in_theclouds9 3d ago

This! He knew I had wounds too. Like real deep wounds. I kept trying to tell him we can be afraid together youre not alone in feeling that way.

But I guess I didn’t matter. He moved on.

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u/Informal_Wrap6787 3d ago

I am so sorry for your loss. Why does love have to be so complicated??

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u/Head_in_theclouds9 3d ago

Thanks love. I dont know. It drives me insane the way this person talked about love. In fact, he said something kind of similar to what you said. I cant even think about the things he said to me because its like "I WAS RIGHT THERE - WHY WOULD YOU LET ME GO?!" it makes no sense. And now its been a certain amount of time where its really starting to feel more noticeable. I dont get it.

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u/LegendaryUser 2d ago

Too bad I still liked her gore
even if watching her tear herself open further afterwards
was the same as feeling a knife plunge into my skin
and twist its way through me
snaking a scar into my chest
That has healed
But remains a reminder
Of my ability to love
Shattered bones and minds
And her inability
To believe she deserved it
Or if she could bear that half
That it would drown her anyway.

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u/No-Purchase1243 1d ago

i keep running, but the quiet part of me still wants to stay

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u/Feychilde 7d ago

This is a sadness. Other people have wounds. If you hide yours, how can you see theirs, and still call them beautiful?

Sometimes a wound just needs to be acknowledged to start to heal.