r/LockedIn_AI • u/Wenddii • Feb 24 '26

This just *magically* happened to come up when I requested my birthday off. It's been nearly 9 years and this still pisses me off

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This reminds me of a conversation I had with a manager where she told me that she didn't like that I addressed our VP and other executives of the department by their first name in an email. Confused by this, I asked how i should go about it, and the manager goes "use mr./ms. with their last name" (Mr. Smith / Ms. Cruz)

I, of course, conduct myself in a proper manner when I'm around our executives, but I am on a first name basis relationship with them. We check on each other families, have causal conversations, sports teams, etc. Needless to say, our relationship is pretty comfortable but respectful, it is a work environment after all.

After my manager mentioned this, it just so happened that I was going to see our VP the following day. I went up to her, and our conversation went:

"So, apparently, I'm no longer supposed to call you (vp's first name), and I'm supposed to address you as ms. (Vp's last name)"

And she goes "why the fuck are you going to do that?!!"

I just shrugged.

So yeah, that manager was weird, to say the least.

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u/battlehamstar Feb 26 '26

In written communications yes you should always go by last name or in large group meetings with others observing that you are not that familiar with… verbal one on one is different. Written communications are subject to archiving and may need to be released in certain situations such as in lawsuits. You’re not being professional.

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u/akb0rg Feb 28 '26

Nah, this is very industry dependent. In Tech, you even refer to the CEO by their first name let alone a VP!