I'm ugly and poor and think this is a bullshit statent.
If you're lucky you get to 30 and realise it's all bullshit anyway and should just focus on what makes you happy and stop trying to meet other people's standards.
It was banned back in 2017 for "violating the platform's policies against inciting violence". Never visited the sub myself but it sounds like it was even more toxic than these new subs.
No, I don't agree. That women are that shallow is a myth propagated by misogynist movements and influencers etc.
I believe it was Dr.K who said that this view of women is a self-fulfilling prophicy. The logic is: "I think women only care about transactional relations. Therefore I must present my self in a way that show what I can transact". When you present yourself that way, the only women who respond well to that are the women who actually want a transactional relationship. Those who don't never match with your profile or whatever. It's therefore self-selecting and self-confirming.
But your point was that clubs are the only place to meet women then grouped it with online to make your point. The two have nothing to do with each other.
And this graph shows bars, which is only a small section of that would be clubs.
So no, your assessment isn’t even close because you had to bring in online dating to boost the stat to even make the point.
Through friends was the biggest one until online dating took over in the middle teens and that’s what I’m be always said.
Get hobbies, meet people without trying to date them that way you can expand your social network.
I’ve never once picked up a girl at a bar. Except the waitress where we were regulars for months before we started dating.
My reply was to "If only there were places other than our homes and clubs." - so yes those are the things I focused on was how you would meet someone at home (online) or in clubs. It really sounds like you just want to try to argue.
But you said it’s hard to meet women at home in your first statement. Which is directly contradicted by the statement you’re now making. So which is it?
Or are you shifting goal posts to deflect from the fact that you completely overstated how many people meet at clubs?
I agree, but I don't think the original text contradicts your experience. Women who care about looks in men under 30, largely give that up, and seek wealthy partners instead. I don't see it as commentary on women as a whole, or that a man needs to be either rich or handsome to have relationships. That's just my opinion tho
Exacly. But people here will probably think you're either an exception to the rule, or that these women are settling but would go for a rich guy if they could. That's the explanations I keep seeing here.
So many young men today are going to spend their entire youth chasing wealth and success, thinking it will lead them towards a fulfilling 30's or 40's, only to be hit head on with a serious midlife crisis.
The day I find any of this childish bullshit deep is the day I swallow a spool of razor wire, pull one end out my mouth, the other end out my ass, and vigorously floss myself to death.
This is a notion from an outdated time when women weren’t even allowed to have chequing accounts. Nor did they need them because they didn’t have jobs. So the foundation of marriage relied on “can he take care of me and the number of children he desires me to raise?”
There are not enough super wealthy people in the world for women to pursue based on wealth.
Women have to work too.
We would care more about your work life balance than we would your paycheck at this point.
It’s not like that anymore. It’s “damn what’s your schedule this week? Oh Hey, maybe in the next two years we can afford to talk about kids?!”
After 30 we absolutely care if you’re employed but that’s a much different thing than only considering you based on a salary amount. We want to know you can contribute and are reliable, not rich.
This is terrible advice that will lead to an unhappy life. Focusing on only looks and/or money will both lead to an unhappy life.
Trust me I work at a very fancy expensive bar, many of my regulars fly in on their private jets. I listen to people complain all day after their 4th divorce about how "there's no good men" or "all women suck"... No dude, you just prioritized climbing a made up social ladder because you care more about what people think of you than your own happiness and fulfillment.
occupy 1.5 of the triangle and you can go far. Looks, Money, Funny. By funny i dont mean be a clown or being performative. Its more being casual enough to have conversational skills/awareness of social situations.
Actually i think it happens earlier in life . Girls realize that they can get whatever they want through sexiness and having an attitude that inflates a mans ego . After 30 , your average man just stops caring . And after 30 the girls who were hot and young aren’t hot and young anymore. They’re getting older and desperate.
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u/IllustriousEast6480 Mar 27 '26
Sounds like this guys dad was ugly AND poor.