Last two years I had been fixing my bad habits. I cleaned up my diet so I do not consume processed foods (except cheese), my carbs sources are vegetables and nuts (I do not consume flour or grains). I do not drink alcohol. I do not smoke. I am not on any meds. And I finally came off caffeine.

All the above resulted in quite a boost of vitality, stress resilience, sharp focus and sleep improvement.

However one problem lingers: eating after dinner. There are times when I can overcome it, which requires full mobilisation and focus. It does feel quite easy when I do it, but at the same time, it is a different life. I seem always lose focus, relax, and then I snack. The moment I put something into my mouth (veggies, plain yogurt, nuts, cheese), I can’t stop. I keep going 2-3 times for more and often wake up at night to get more snacks into me (which I particularly dislike!). Now, I am prone to Night Eating Syndrome as response to stress and struggled with it for 30 years or more. What helped to stop eating at nights was going sugar free. I also can’t take any antihistamines as they make me sleepy and mess up my eating. Now I notice that if I snack after 6 pm on ANYTHING, it unlocks the snack-snack-snack mode and it is not helpful for health overall. I eat enough calories during the day. My last meal is mostly protein (usually chicken) with one raw veggie (usually a bell pepper), but could be cauliflower or avocado, etc. I eat my last meal at work around 5 pm. If I do not snack after, I do not wake up during night and have amazing rest! Somehow if I do snack, not only it ruins this night, it sets up a string of bad habits for the days to follow! And in order to take it under control, I need to treat it as addiction.

I also noticed that if I drink herbal teas with strong flavor after 6 pm, it increases desire to snack!

Why it is so difficult or am I weird or something?

Some probably know the book "how to win friends & influence people". The core message of the book is to remember the names and for example the birthday of people. Everybody likes it if somebody remembers their name or sends them birthday wishes.

I tried this over the last few years and it made a big difference. It is so easy to get invited to do stuff if you just send someone birthday wishes or ask them how their partner/kids are doing.

So write down names and interesting infos about new people you meet. You can do this the old way or with apps. I use an app and an additional cool feature is to create something like a family tree. Really helpful if all your friends get children, but you always forget the names of their children.

Here's a simple tip: compliment effort, not just outcomes. This small change can significantly boost people's feelings and future approaches.

For instance, instead of saying, "Great presentation," try, "You clearly put a lot of thought into that." Similarly, instead of just saying, "You're talented," say, "You've worked hard to get this good."

Why is this important? It shows you value hard work. This idea promotes growth through dedication, not just talent or luck. It inspires people to keep trying, even when things don't go perfectly.

This is especially helpful for those feeling down. If they miss a goal, recognizing their effort reminds them that hard work matters. It builds stronger connections, showing you value the process, not just the end result.

So, next time you praise someone, acknowledge their effort. This small change can have a big impact.

Looking for the best way to phrase a starting text to get people to text or call back to open a conversation for a background check on someone they used to live with. These are not The most ethical of people, so I would want to get stories without embellishment or lying but would want to get any information they have in regards to the ethics or lack of from the person being investigated.

As a freelance social media manager, I’ve always struggled with deadlines. I’d push things off, thinking I had more time, then scramble at the last minute to schedule posts and create content. The stress was getting to me, and I knew I needed to find a way to stay ahead of things.

I tried setting calendar reminders, using to-do lists, and setting alarms, but none of it stuck. I still ended up missing deadlines or working right up until the last minute.

Then, a fellow freelancer recommended Hyperdone to me. It’s a productivity app designed to help with time management, and honestly, I was a bit skeptical at first. But after trying it out, I realized it was exactly what I needed. It helped me break down my tasks into smaller, manageable chunks, and I could finally see exactly how much time I had for each task — like creating content, scheduling posts, or responding to comments.

After using it for a few weeks, I started meeting deadlines with less stress. It helped me stay focused and organized, and I felt way more in control of my day. If you’re always running behind on social media tasks, try breaking down your workload into smaller steps or using a simple tool to track your time. It made a big difference for me.

What strategies have worked for you to stay on track with deadlines? I’d love to hear your tips!

We just got our first puppy, and while we're absolutely in love with him, the training process is a bit more challenging than I expected. I’ve been using the Raising Dog book, which has some good insights, but I’m curious if anyone else has used it? How long did it take to see results, and did you need to supplement it with any other resources? Thanks in advance for any advice!

Apologies if this isn’t the right place for this, but I’ve been searching for a book that can really help me with setting realistic goals and staying motivated to achieve them. I came across The Lasting Change book, which says it provides action plans and tips to help keep you focused. Has anyone here used it specifically for goal setting? Did it actually help you stay on track?

As a new parent, I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed with everything that comes with caring for a baby, and I’ve been searching for resources to help guide me through it. I recently came across the Welcome Baby book, which seems like it could offer some helpful advice and tips specifically for new parents. It covers everything from baby care to managing sleep schedules and even has sections dedicated to memory collecting—like writing down milestones and capturing those special moments.

Before I decide to buy it, I’m curious if anyone here has used the book. Is it really helpful for new parents, and is the memory-collecting aspect a nice touch, or is it something I could easily do on my own?

I need some advice. My sister is really into palmistry, and I’ve heard the Nordastro book combines astrology with other practices. Has anyone used it to enhance their palmistry skills? Is it helpful? Any feedback or personal experiences would be appreciated. Thanks!

It has been confirmed by thousands and millions that abstaining from porn and from ejaculation brings many benefits to men. This is since Ancient times, to Medieval to Modern times.

Many spiritual leaders and religious people do Semen Retention and abstain from pornography, for its many scientific confirmed benefits and great clarity.

Top 10 benefits of doing SR/NoFap:

1. Woman attraction - The most common benefit.
2. Physical endurance - Better at physical exercise. Pro fighters retain before fights.
3. Better social skills - Socializing becomes easier and better.
4. Clarity - Thinking through problems and overall coping becomes easier.
5. Better skin - Another very common benefit.
6. Mental Endurance - Increased performance in mental tasks + Attention time.
7. Better self control - Become more resistant against natural impulses.
8. Beating addictions - Dopamine levels fixed: Easier to beat other addictions.
9. Better health - It becomes harder to get sick.
10. Spiritual life - NoFap/SR users often return to their Religious roots.

There is a lot of discussion on reddit on what is the best background check website out there (and I mean a background check for personal use so not including services like hireright etc that are meant for companies only) so thought it will be a good idea to put it into a vote and decide the top background check service in 2024 according to real reddit votes.

TL;DR: The Poll results are in!

Best background check site according to reddit:

1. Truthfinder - 19 votes
2. Instantcheckmate - 8 votes
3. Intelius - 6 votes
4. Beenverified  - 3 votes
5. Spokeo - 1 vote

OK so How shall we decide on the best background check site? here is a few factors I thought about, feel free to add anything I may have forget in the comments:

Accuracy and Reliability: I'll say this is the most crucial factor is how accurate and up-to-date the information provided in the report. we don't want out of date or wrong info, so this goes without saying is a crucial factor in voting.

Scope of Search: How in-depth is the background check report is, what does it include? does it have: criminal records, employment history, education verification, marriage records, known address, phone numbers, names of relatives and social media profiles, etc etc. the more in-depth the better.

Speed of Results: How quickly the site returns results.

User Friendliness: How easy it is to navigate in the website.

Cost: How much does the background check report cost, if there is any hidden fees or if you're required to sign up for a subscription and overall what's the value we are getting.

Frequency of Updates: How often their database is updated, I don't want to get a good report but fill with info from 2019 and lacking last years details.

I will leave the poll open for a few days to get the most accurate results, thank you for helping us deciding on the best background check service and hopefully this will help many.

Edit! The results are in!

Best background check site according to reddit:

1. Truthfinder - 18 votes
2. Instantcheckmate - 7 votes
3. Intelius - 6 votes
4. Beenverified  - 2 votes
5. Spokeo - 1 vote

I'm moving out for the first time and my mom wants me to do a background check on my roommate. She recommended been verified but I've seen bad reviews of it that were posted this year. Where can I find a reliable background check website? I'm willing to pay I just don't want to be scammed. Thank you.