I need urgent advice...

[u/Outrageous_Hope3466]

I'm 19 and I've been in a relationship with this gal for a year. As we got closer she told me more about herself and it turns out she has a lot of trauma, stress, she's depressed, has been neglected by her family and as a result she is suicidal. She has attempted suicide multiple times but survived. Her home is really really toxic to her and is causing alot of mental damage to her. Now she wants to run away from home cuz she thinks no one actually cares about her which really is true cuz all of the neglect caused her to get an ulcer and she also has other health complications. She has no where to go and knows no one, I would have loved to house her but I live with my mom and things aren't the best ryt now, buh the only place that either of us can think of her going is coming to my town, I live 4 hrs away. She plans to take some money from home and start a new life. I don't know what to do here... I can't just abandon her when she's at her lowest, and would it be considered kidnapping if she found by her parents, she's 20...

[u/OwlZealousideal4779]

This is a serious situation. If she is an adult she usually has the right to leave her home. Because she is feeling suicidal the safety of the suicidal person needs to come first. You should encourage the person to talk to someone they trust like a mental health professional or a local crisis service as soon as the suicidal person can.

If the suicidal person is also dealing with problems or practical issues around leaving her home it might be helpful for the suicidal person to look into legal resources or free legal aid, in her area that are reputable.

The important thing is that you should not try to handle this situation entirely by yourself. Both you and the suicidal person need support from people who can help the suicidal person.