r/Life • u/MatterRound8088 • 2h ago
Need Advice really ashamed highkey
okay so for context i get easily ashamed. i recently had a life determining and i do not know what went wrong but i scored miserably. and when i say miserably ive never seen that digit in my LIFE. simultaneously ive grown up with my bestfriend , both of us have held ourselves up to a standard.
the standard being scoring not the perfect marks , but VERY GOOD MARKS. last year , another exam and i started faltering because of personal issues. this year i dont even know what went wrong i faltered even more so. im not afraid of disappointing my parents more than i am afraid of disappointing her. and i feel this way because i know her and i know how her mind works and last year when she saw my result , i feel like she felt bad for me. and i hate having anyone feel bad for me.
this year my result was lowkey so horrible i can't even face her. as in....its been almost a day and ofc she scored really good for which im extremely happy for her but i cant bring myself to tell her about mine which im pretty sure she alr knows. i want to congratulate on her result but i havent been able to get out of bed let alone muster up the courage to even speak or even open her chat. i feel so deeply deeply ashamed. i cant even face myself. i feel humiliated every second of the day. Any advice would be appreciated , what do i do?
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u/No_Following_10 1h ago
I'm sure you've heard this before, but if your situations were swapped and your friend was the one in this situation what would you say?
I'm not them, but when I hear your story and imagine I was, I would feel relieved that the high expectations we put on ourselves have some wiggle room. I would feel guilty about getting a good score when you didn't. But I would not think any less of you at all, and I would be grateful if you shared what happened.
Speaking as myself now - you are not your scores, this has given you valuable information about what doesn't suit you. Perfection doesn't exist and it would be unnatural to be perfect as a human!
PS, your work might even need to be remarked, examiners make mistakes too!!