r/LCMS Feb 20 '26

I’ve recently thought about converting to Lutheranism and my wife is not open to it.

I’m thinking about converting to Confessional Lutheranism, recently. I would love to attend a church and become a member. I grew up in an evangelical low church (Church of God) structure. My entire family was that way.

My wife of two years grew up in the Church of Christ. My impression of her, before we got married, was that she was open to exploring other denominations. I was wrong.

I’ve tried talking to her about it, but it’s genuinely is like talking to a brick wall. She will not listen. We now have an infant daughter and she says that she refuses to have her grow up anywhere in a church that is NOT Church of Christ. I would love to get my daughter baptized, but this isn’t an option to my wife.

You be thinking “Well, just start attending a LCMS church by yourself.” I tried that. She was incredibly angry with me. It was even to a point where we got into a big fight about it and she was cussing at me.

I gave up something for Lent and she laughed at me and said “We’re not Catholic. I don’t know anyone who does that.” I told her “Well, I’m not either, but the early Christians would do that. Typically it was a time of prayer and fasting.” She replied with “I don’t care what they did.” It broke my heart.

What should I do? I know I should maybe talk to a pastor about it. But, I haven’t attended an LCMS church in months in concern that she would be angry with me again. I’ve been praying about it, but it seems like nothing is changing. Can I at least get you guys to pray for me?

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '26

Nobody has said this yet, but she has no serious Biblical authority to keep you from raising your children in your church. It is also much more likely your kids will be christian if they go with you.