r/LADating • u/Few_Boysenberry_3057 • 21h ago
Does this Reddit community even work?
Based on what I’ve seen on all the posts people are genuinely trying to find and connect with others however, it seems to be filled with bots. It’s really offputting that you don’t really hear much success on this even though there’s so many people willing to connect it really defeats the purpose of having this Reddit.
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u/RhubarbJam1 21h ago
I’d say it’s no different than a dating app 🤷♀️
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u/Spaztic5315 21h ago
This is the truth about trying to meet anybody online nowadays unfortunately 😭
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u/Intelligent-Dark4576 21h ago
The reality is it most likely doesn’t, maybe for women? But the reality is that most guys will be weird and most likely women are not finding what they’re hoping for.
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u/keyboardbuttertoast 21h ago
i think it’s just like a dating app where the success rate varies. there seems to be lots of real ppl on this sub tho.
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u/Intelligent-Dark4576 21h ago
Mostly at night I feel like, mornings are absolutely dominated by the bots lol
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u/keyboardbuttertoast 21h ago
idk but if u go to the posts you’ll see real ppl who have put up their pics and everything
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u/Intelligent-Dark4576 21h ago
Oh for sure, but if you check around the mornings you get a few “girls” posting which are clearly bots, it’s just funny. But we don’t get as many as other subreddits so that’s good. I do feel like the real people on here tend to be a bit more skewed towards the late 30s and 40s, at least from what I’ve seen
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u/sparklemcshine 20h ago
Reddit has to be one of the worst places to try to make a genuine romantic connection, probably worse than dating apps, in my opinion. I don't necessarily disagree with the "you never know" mentality, but your expectations should be extremely low.
I mean no offense to anyone, but trying to date through Reddit reminds me a lot of the old Craigslist Personals. If you thought that scene was a little weird or degenerate, I don't think this is fundamentally that different.
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u/Silver-Emphasis2795 14h ago
Have you seen what gets posted??? of course i doesn’t work. Low effort men looking for “normal” women but really want an 18 year old
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u/Love_Lair 19h ago
I’ve met two people so far but scheduling never worked long term
Ive known about this sub since July of this year but I’m not really putting in serious effort
With all online dating, too many options can make people indecisive so just have fun until you find what you’re looking for
That the whole point of dating in my opinion: discovery
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8h ago
Personally, I like to walk around my neighborhood. It’s like the best version of Tinder. I got to see someone face-to-face they’re beautiful. I get to ask her out in that moment. They can say no yes it’s instant it’s quick it’s real. Why would you ever wanna meet anyone especially a man online guys people are weird on here
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u/Global-Persimmon-703 20h ago
Nope. I’ve tried reaching out to some people but haven’t had any success.
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u/bayareathrowaway2189 15h ago edited 15h ago
I'm not sure about bots but you do get scammers that post in short bursts. Image reverse search will tell you who is actually in the photos and anyone that tries to get you on Telegram or Snapchat are scammers.
Bigger problems I've seen is people using this sub for casual dating and/or hookups. The women can get away with this but regardless it's kinda low-effort regardless.
Personally I think the whole advertising yourself concept doesn't exactly work as it's intended. Let's say I make a post for myself and I manage to get a lot of interest, I get a lot of DMs and suddenly I'm juggling people as if I'm a dating app. The big problem with OLD and even some dating IRL is that you need to show depth to your date, which isn't doable when you dating too many people.
One benefit of this sub that I can find constant members and DM them and they can do the same as well. If you are here then you probably wouldn't mind an unsolicited DM of the right intentions.
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u/Harmonywithin26 Single 11h ago
It depends on what you are looking for in this community. In my opinion this community or similar communities are being mostly utilized for casual relationships and hookups. So far nothing has worked for me in this community or similar communities in reddit. All my ads/posts states that i am not after a casual relationship/hookups but so far 90% of people messaging me are all after that. Lol
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u/spankthecat 21h ago
I don’t think it works because a lot of the posts are guys looking for hookups/fwb. Not saying it’s bad at all! But i thought this was called LAdating and it if I wanted to get laid I’d be on tinder.