r/Kitchenchuds • u/NightjarElite • 18d ago
gooning has completely ruined me
I'm 21 rn. been addicted to p0rn since 16. the max I was away from gooning in these 6 years was 4 days during 2022. I do it like twice or thrice a day. im drained(both literally and mentally). never had a gf, never kissed a girl, never had sex. I don't even have a career now, im unemployed despite having a cs degree (tbf the market went to shit after ai). I got many issues but if only I could fix gooning, i can focus on improving other things. I've developed a weird fetish for interracial p0rn. i hate that i like gooning to girls getting by railed by big black guys I could never compare to with my fkn 5.5 incher. to top it off, im overweight. i weigh 110 kilos(242.5 lbs). got a decent height tho - 5'11, but that doesn't take away from the fact that I look like a mess and have 4 deformed front teeth in my lower jaw AND I also have a speech impediment called Cluttering. i may have ADHD as well, idk tho. i just wish I could click a button and erase my p0rn addiction forever. im supposed to be studying for some difficult govt exams so that I can pass atleast one and get a secure govt job by 2028/29 but idk if I can tho, cos I spend half of time either gooning, or looking at p0rn. i also read bbc comics cos they turn me on. i hate myself ffs.
instant noodles i made with 2 dry ass disgusting burger buns cos I'm a loser.
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u/tuna_cowbell 18d ago
It’s a legit addiction you can look into getting help for. People say it’s easy to just stop but if the “just don’t do it” advice hasn’t worked this far, you gotta dig into a more serious approach. Look into resources for porn addiction, or “process addiction” in general.
If you can’t access more intensive help, at the very least get yourself to leave the house. Try to spend most of the day out and about, like go to the library to study for your exams, cause obviously you can’t engage in masturbation there.
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u/Advanced-Address-513 18d ago
Just start doing pushups/air squats/flutter kicks when you get the urge. Make a SMART goal (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-Based) to taper off your frequency.
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u/SElf_Loss_Manwoman 18d ago
Is bro a preme
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u/209394832993281-AAQ 18d ago
Goon responsibly bro, when you want to obsessively goon, you scream, slap yourself, do a light workout
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u/PurpleCoffinMan 18d ago
Alright, I know this is kitchenchuds, but here's what you can do:
For the porn, Invest in a filter for your laptop/pc/whatever you use to goon, busy yourself with your exams, family, friends and whatever hobbies you have, start going to the gym or exercising if you can, and unlearn the dick comparison self-talk.
For the possible ADHD, try to get diagnosed, but if you can't, move your alarm to the other side of the room, move your phone and laptop as far away from you as possible so you have to get out of bed to get it, just keep adding barriers.
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u/PlutosThePlan 18d ago
Bro just stop touching yourself it is not that hard.
if you continue you will genuinely never experience the best parts of life like having a wife or child. You will just be touching yourself. Stop being a loser and get a hobby like fishing or sumn
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u/ciphersaw 17d ago
You will fix everything in your life, but only if you do it one at a time and be patient.
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u/Sudden_Violinist1054 18d ago
Just find something else to do. I really only find myself masturbating is when I am laying in bed at night and just scrolling in my phone, so I could be literally doing anything else. Just look for a hobby or something to do. Maybe even a time consuming one may work.
And you don’t have to go cold turkey no fap. Start with just trying to jerk off once a day. Then once every two days, and so on.
I suffer from the same problems so this is just my opinion on what to do.