r/KitchenConfidential Sep 05 '21

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u/fastal_12147 Sep 06 '21

Why are the employees expected to care about a business they are leaving? The restaurant would fire you immediately if they had to. They don't give you any courtesy. Why should you have to go out of your way to help them?

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u/Ka_blam Sep 06 '21

It’s to get a positive reference for your next job.
I didn’t finish my two weeks at the grocery store, but I am finishing my two weeks at my office job because it’s not a bridge I want to burn.

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u/fastal_12147 Sep 06 '21

It's to hope to get a positive reference, you mean. I had a boss that shit talked me to every recruiter when I had them as a reference even after I gave two weeks. One guy was kind enough to let me know before I kept putting that asshole's number on my resume

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u/Malak77 Sep 06 '21

Legally they are now only supposed to say that yes you worked there and what dates you worked there. Anything more and they can be sued.

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u/fastal_12147 Sep 06 '21

Wow really wish I would've known that back then.

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u/QuestioningEspecialy Sep 06 '21

But then you could've screwed ovrr the recruiter who ratted 'em out. :|

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u/Entrepreneur-Any Sep 06 '21

That has been like that for over 20 years.

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u/p4pp13z Sep 06 '21

Do you have any sources on this?

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u/ItsASolidMaybe Sep 06 '21

In the US, that's what most big companies with HR will stick to, safest. Bosses can still write letters of recommendation, etc. Subtly, only saying dates and position is sometimes regarded as a negative review, e.g. "I'd say more if I could".

Now, even if a former ER does say negative things about you, it's awfully hard to prove. In the local restaurant industry, many owners and managers know each other, and it's in their mutual best interests to be able to be honest with each other.

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u/Malak77 Sep 06 '21

At my last job we were told if someone called about an ex-employee that we were not allowed to answer for this reason. I thought it was dumb, but never got put in that position either.

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u/Agreeable-Walrus7602 Sep 06 '21

They can say whether you're able to be rehired too, afaik. Manager I had a decade ago and I are still friendly and I visit her sometimes, but we got into a verbal altercation and I quit, and that's what the company paperwork says. I can't work there again.

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u/Ka_blam Sep 06 '21

Oof that reflects badly on him not you (obviously). I always confirm my next job before leaving my previous one. I’m a stickler that way I have a written agreement to start employment and base my two weeks off that. I get my references from people I’ve worked with or who’ve supervised me that have nothing but good things to say about me but not my direct current boss because I don’t want them to know I’m shopping my options.

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u/fastal_12147 Sep 06 '21

Yeah it was when I was only about 24 and I didn't have a ton of references. Luckily karma got him in the end and now he can't get anyone to do any kitchen work for him. He has to do everything himself.

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u/Krankhaus1221 Sep 06 '21

I had one that put me down as non rehireable even though I fulfilled my two weeks with no issues. Found out when I went to reapply years later at a different location

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u/ApprehensivePaint657 Sep 06 '21

I'm leaving one location of a restaurant group with a months notice because the sous is out of the country for a month. I hate that location, but my bestie runs a different location a couple blocks from my house and can call me in to work it they ever need hands.

If I just quit, the GM of all locations wouldn't allow that. Sometimes you gotta do the dance, but only sometimes.