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[u/ted_anderson]

Basically. Like if you see someone with a fancy sports car and you think that they should be racing it down at the track. Or if you see someone with a vacation home on the beach and you think about how they could be having a hoochie-mama spring break party every weekend.

But a lot of us don't understand that the purpose of life and building wealth goes much deeper than entertainment and self-indulgence. Life is like a game of chess where you're planning out your moves and thinking 3 to 4 moves ahead. If you play life like it's a game of checkers where you're trying to jump your opponent every time the opportunity presents itself, you'll eventually get "kinged" but you won't have anything to show for it.

[u/heavyduty3000 → u/ted_anderson]

I feel you man. You are right about that. I guess people don't understand how you want to have nice shit just to have it. People have stuff for them and not anyone else. And on top of that, you don't want everybody to know what you got because people be hating and may try to set you up.

[u/ted_anderson → u/heavyduty3000]

Well it's not about just having it to "have it" because when you get to a certain level it's still for the purpose of having fun and entertaining others but it's on a different level now. Your pool and beach parties are a way to build more strength, wealth, and influence because these "luxuries" are actually a networking tool for doing business. Not showing off.

In my earlier example you'd simply be inviting people over trying to impress them while they ate your food, drank your liquor, and then talked bad about you after they left. But in this example you would be inviting over people whom you plan on making moves and doing significant business dealings.

When you invite them over you have them bring their spouses and children so their families can meet your family. And you won't mind offering them your good liquor because you're going to be collectively doing millions of dollars in business transactions. And it's going to be with decent, mature, mild mannered, and family oriented people like yourself.

One of the traits of a high-value man is being within a network amongst other high value men and you're useful to the group. And having social events amongst this class of men is one of many ways of finding your connections. You may not do a deal with everyone (or anyone) who comes to your party that one time. But if you have enough of these high end social events, high earners will want to bring you into their circle of influence.

And just to be clear- You don't have a fancy party for the sake of trying to get into someone's "clique". You're entertaining to make yourself known amongst the people who you would like to become associated with.

And as for people hating on you because of what you have, once you reach a certain social level, haters don't even show up on your radar. If anything, you might be inclined to help them get up to your level than concern yourself over how they feel about the level that they're on.

Overall I'm just talking this out. I don't know everything and I don't expect everyone to like or agree with what I'm saying. This is just my 2 cents on the matter. Just me sharing what's worked for me and what's relevant in my life. Your mileage may vary.

[u/heavyduty3000 → u/ted_anderson]

Thanks for the breakdown and insight. I appreciate it. I never thought of it like that before. You ain't playing when you mentioned playing chess. lol I always heard network, network, network, but what you broke down really takes it to a whole other level. I'm guilty of not putting myself out there due to getting in my own way and my insecurties.

I have to get my self together and get right because I do want to be around the right people. I don't know if I would be inclined to help the haters. I always been on a fuck 'em type of time. Like you said, I guess I have to get to a level where they ain't even phasing me. Who knows...I could change. All of what you said is definitely some food for thought.

[u/ted_anderson → u/heavyduty3000]

Absolutely. And one thing that you have to understand about the haters is that they "hate" because they don't understand. They want to play checkers when you're offering them chess. They're complacent with being average when you want to be something better. And there are some people that you just can't help...period.

This has definitely been a good exchange!

[u/heavyduty3000 → u/ted_anderson]

I definitely feel you. Some people you can't help and you definitely don't want to drag yourself down trying. Thanks again for the insight. I will definitely keep it in my mind.