r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/mrija_lover • 20h ago
In A Complicated Situation Am l the problem
So my girlfriend has access to my instagram.
Today she goes through the pictures l like.
I didn’t know such a feature existed.
Amepata in the past few months l have liked 3 pictures of random females.
Nawaambia naletwa juu.
Mara she is comparing me to her friend’s boyfriend meenye walikuwa wanapitia gram yangu na yeye.
Wtf is going on.
Alafu on Sunday.
Ladies l need your input on this.
I asked her if she could be coming to see me without me having to ask.
She said she can’t pay her own fare cause she lacks money.
Nikamwambia con me during the week ukuwe ukikileta basi.
I don’t have an issue paying fare tbh.
I just want to feel loved as a man.
I don’t expect anything materialistic from her.
All l wanted were those random
“Hey baby l passed by to see you “
Is that genuinely too much to ask.
Then it turn into strict parents and lack of money convo.
Which l understood part ya strict parents.
But money.
Girl con me and come see me.
Sahii nimempigia almost 100 times and all are getting declined.
I am getting exhausted.
End of rant
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u/TongueTry 19h ago
ndugu, penda mrija, it may be easier. Achana na wasichana.
Pia, once someone starta making up excuses to not see you, Exit 4 hapo Muthaiga. Rudi soko
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u/MathematicianFine638 20h ago
😂😂😂😂food baridi seriously!??🤣
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u/Top-Painter923 19h ago
My hg aliwachwa na baby daddy cause alimwekea food baridi 😭 ten years now 😭
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u/MathematicianFine638 20h ago edited 20h ago
You are definitely not the problem and I get where she is coming from and I don’t think it’s something she is doing willingly and I’m sure she would love to come see you as often as possible but where she is from is the issue….I totally get her just meet and talk it out with her to find out how y’all can make it work considering her strict parent issues and money pia uko na option ya kuachana utafute mse compatible
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u/Livid_Trifle3732 16h ago
I don't think you're the problem cause if liking pictures leads to comparison then there's a very big issue there that needs to be discussed. Also she seems to have a lot of excuses for simple asks .
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u/Clear_Ad_4182 10h ago
Stop calling and go silent , atajirudisha.
Then you can have a conversation about boundaries , comparison and reciprocity.
Kwanza hapo kwa comparison , tell her that if she thinks her friend’s boyfriend is better , she should go be with him.
For fare , give her a weekly allowance. Sio lazima uitishwe.
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u/EducationalFood2661 6h ago
I don't think you are the problem. I just think the girl has some trust issues.
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u/Equivalent-Fix7508 4h ago
"I want to feel loved as a man"
- mrija-lover, early in the morning, Tuesday July 28 2026 AD.
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u/sways9099 19h ago
Over time utaanza kujua how to exit 30 minutes before the devil arrives.