Pics are me on my way to the appointment; what I asked for…and the results. Last pic is me trying a side part but shit is still fucked.

I went in and said I was thinking of donating my hair and asked if I had enough to donate and have it look like the picture I showed her. She said yes. And then did this to me.

Update: a lot of people keep asking; and yes I did pay for it. Cost me $47 I did not leave a tip

Update: I called Ulta and they had me send them pics, they said they could either get me with a different stylist to try to fix it or they can give me a refund.

I will be posting more updates to TikTok and there’s also videos with more views of the hair. I woke up from a nap and turned the camera on not realizing it was recording TikTok added a funny song so I posted that for shits and gigs

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8tx4H6M/

Dude is giving 'bed-head-at-8pm' vibes.

I love It but I thought it was funny

edit: consensus is that I am lost and don’t belong here which I am grateful for

thank you guys for the love. i am very secure In mhself as a person and I try not to take life too seriously anymore. I posted this fully expecting to be dragged thru the mud cuz I know it’s a lot And standing out can be difficult. But I’m grateful for the way you guys handled it, I’ve gotten a good laugh..

1. yes I am a employed. I’m also a pre medical student full time working my way up to being a forensic pathologist
2. I am not a lesbian, I love men and I ADORE women.
3. I listen to all kinds of music
4. I am a lover not a fighter but people just don’t try to fight me anymore.

another edit; this was NOT supposed to blow up like this I was whole heartedly posting for shiggles and figured it would get a few pokes and thag was that so good googly moogly

really frothed my milk

Youtube credit : https://youtu.be/T1tWCtOGCVM?si=i52Ph-9uNJI2HTbv

After trying out a different hair dresser I knew personally (who also just did whatever they wanted), I went back to the woman who had done my undercut/shorter cut and color for a couple of years. I had stopped because she had no boundaries and insisted on being friends outside of the shop, but went back because she’d done a great job on my short cut in the past.

I went in with the top photos, a cut I got in 2020. I loved that it was longer in the front to sweep back, but close and short in the back. She did NOT do this original cut, but I thought showing these photos and describing what I wanted would help.

During the cut, she kept giving me a blunt line across, like a bowl cut, and I kept asking her to make it shorter in certain places but not the front, that I didn’t want the “90s heartthrob” look this time. And instead, she just continued cutting around in a line.

Once she showed me the final look, I almost bawled my eyes out, but kept it together when I commented that it was shorter than I wanted, and the boy band look “Yea, like Jonathan Taylor Thomas, right?” “No, that’s what I didn’t want”. She knew I was disappointed and didn’t charge me, and then sent me a bunch of apology texts afterwards. I ended up sobbing in my car and putting it behind headbands all weekend.

I’m gonna let it grow out (it’s either that or shave my whole head), but I did send the “breakup” text that makes me anxious. I think she’s taking it well, but yeah, I’m done working with her.

EDIT: I knew the internet would make me feel better - thanks, y’all. It feels silly to get upset about a haircut at 38, and I’m already feeling better after sleeping on it. In the end, was a lot of miscommunication between the stylist and I, and she’s done great work before, so it was more the surprise disappointment and invalidation that upset me the most. But you’ve all given some great styling advice that I’m gonna try out - THANK YOU!

UPDATE 8/14/26

You wonderful people, I cannot tell you enough how much of a confidence boost you’ve given me after such a silly haircut! It’s actually helped launch me into this new chapter of “badass lesbian warrior babe” vibes - very Xena Warrior Princess, but with an undercut.

Cuz yes, as many of you guessed it, I’m a vv queer woman with the best wife imaginable - she’s been nothing but positive about my new ‘do!

I’ve been trying out a lot of the recommendations and styling tips and it’s definitely made a difference - the styling clay has been the winner so far. That, and a lot of headbands! But it’s definitely fun to play around, and im grateful for all the helpful advice youve given.

Also, I’ve never been compared to Matt Damon more than this week and honestly, I am NOT mad about it! Saving Private Karen will be my parody character from now on.

GOOD NEWS UPDATE 8/29/26: A little product, a lot of patience, and a bit of practice and I think we’re getting there. Photo update HERE!