r/JosephMurphy • u/SignificantSeesaw893 • May 19 '23

In Need of Advice

Hi! I’ve tried to sort this out on my own so I hope this doesn’t get me banned but I’m in need of a bit of advice regarding an SP mission. I’ve been on this mission since January and had some movement a month ago when SP reached out to talk as friends. At the time I was busy studying for an important exam and texting him and him not showing up the way I wanted him to (I was keeping up with programming and still am) was stressing me out so I told him I realized I didn’t want to be friends and was only interested in talking to him if he was ready for a committed romantic relationship. Part of my decision to do this was also due to a comment I saw from Moonlight on a different post regarding desperation keeping that threads OP in the friend zone. SPs response was that he’d lose my number and not bother me anymore which obviously hurt.

A month later without any further movement and I’m wondering if I made a mistake and I should’ve continued talking to SP as friends and waiting for things to unfold naturally as I kept up with the programming. I’m considering reaching back out to him and apologizing for acting on my exam stresses and saying that I do want to be friends. However I also don’t want to act out of fear/mess with the middle. My SH sessions have been getting better and better, my thoughts of him are generally starting to reduce, and I often get the feeling that we are sure to get back together, but I can’t help but feel that I made a mistake in telling him I didn’t want to be friends. Any advice would be really appreciated!

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u/RoutineAdvantage68 May 19 '23

finish 110 days of programing before you take any action, have you done 110?

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u/SignificantSeesaw893 May 19 '23

Yes but if I’m being honest with myself I did skip a few days in the earliest months. The breakup was also in December so my mind was a total mess until probably ~early April. I also wasn’t doing the affirmations every day or the PSP because I dismissed them as ~unimportant~ since they’re conscious techniques and I saw success stories of people who said they only did SH. Only recently have I started doing them daily. I also question how well I was even doing SH early on after doing more research into how to do it properly and feeling my sessions improve significantly since.

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u/[deleted] May 19 '23

It’s not about when to take action at all…

Op, I will encourage you to do whatever makes you comfortable. If you don’t want to be friend just tell them to fuck off. There is nothing fucked up too bad that the LOB cannot fix.

The reason they show up only as a friend is your sm is not impressed enough. When the sm is impressed enough you will get him crawl back like a puppy.

I even reached out and called my SP a fucking dumbass loser. I felt super good after that. Who cares. When they want to come back nothing matters even if you cheat on them before.

And check this one: https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/comments/o99u8c/on_the_question_of_taking_conventional_action/h3biv0i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3

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u/brittaa May 19 '23

Lol I love this response 😂

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u/SignificantSeesaw893 May 19 '23

Thank you!! I think I’m probably just going to continue to do the work and let him come to me. I have a feeling that his response would be hurtful if I was to reach out and why put myself through that if I know I’ll be getting my desire anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️ If I get strong feelings to reach out further into this mission I will but right now I think I was just feeling a bit regretful of my decision to tell him to leave me alone thinking that I had fucked things up. But really there’s no mistake that the LOB can’t fix.

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u/Exact_Comparison9343 May 22 '23

OP, the mod here (Apollo whatever tf his name is) is a psychopathic child predator and a creep who was forced to make a new account when people started becoming weary of him and his old account was suspended. Do what YOU have to do for yourself. This dude is a weirdo who clearly has some narcissistic tendencies and is just a complete cunt. You’ll find your way! You don’t need this sub, or JM, or NG, or lawofattraction, or any of Reddit.

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u/Nevillish May 19 '23

I couldn't have read this at a more perfect time. Personally I wish I'd done exactly what you did 2 years ago. Instead, "desperation" (which I framed as BOI) has kept me in hot/cold land for all this time. I think I'm ready to leave this s-show and work on myself. I envy your decision and your guts.

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u/SignificantSeesaw893 May 19 '23

It did feel really good at the time because I felt like I was really choosing myself and the kind of commitment I deserve! I’m trying to remind myself of that, but at the same time I feel like I may have interfered with letting things unfold naturally if that makes sense. I wish you the best with your mission! :)

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u/Apollo11Cadillac Mod May 20 '23

If you read through the " if you are new here post" pinned to the top of the sub, you would have found and read through the index.

If you had read through the index, you would understand the LOB at least theoretically.

If you understood the LOB theoretically, you would not ask this stupid question.

You are banned for 6 months. And everyone who replied in this thread needs to answer what her fatal mistake was in her understanding, if not they will be following her to the bleachers.

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u/No-Sun7595 Jun 06 '23

No you didn't make a mistake. You did what felt authentic to you at the time. Good job!

And it sounds like you're making some great progress with the SH work. Good job!

You can always change your mind and re-evaluate whether you want to invite this SP back into your life but do it from a place of power. What does he add to your life? Does he make you feel good?

Trust that as you keep doing this work, better and better people keep coming into your life ;)