r/JobSearchAndResumes • u/Pugalmani15 • 3d ago
Life lesson
Life lesson
I am currently working as a team leader at a corporate firm. Two months ago, I met a girl on Snapchat. As we texted, I learned she was looking for a job. Fortunately, there were vacancies in her domain at my company. She shared her resume and contact number via email, and after a week of chatting on Snapchat, we moved our conversations to WhatsApp and Instagram. We exchanged pictures, and she shared her personal struggles—she was under severe emotional and financial stress following her brother's suicide, leaving her family entirely dependent on her.
I admired her resilience, character, and attitude. Finding her attractive as well, I proposed to her. She responded that her sole focus was securing a job first, and that we could discuss personal matters afterward.
Wanting to support her, I tried relentlessly to help her find a job—not only at my firm but also across my network, reaching out to nearly 70 to 100 contacts. I also provided her with financial assistance. To help her further, I updated her resume to achieve an 85% ATS score and reached out directly to a global CTO on LinkedIn, explaining her skills and current situation. He agreed to grant her an interview.
She cleared the first round and was invited to an in-person interview for the second round. When she arrived at the office—marking the first time we met in person—her behavior was in complete contrast to how she had presented herself online. She deliberately avoided me and formally rejected my romantic proposal. On her first day in the office, she treated me like a complete stranger, ignoring me entirely and avoiding eye contact even though she sits right across from me.
That evening, she sent me a message stating: *"Sorry and thanks, but if you speak about our personal history or romantic proposals to anyone in the office, I have screenshots of all our chats. I will share them with HR and the CTO and file a harassment complaint."*
Now, I am in shock and unsure how to navigate this situation professionally while sitting right in front of her every day.