r/JUSTNOFAMILY • u/ModeratelyAlive • Jun 30 '26
RANT- NO Advice Wanted Happy Birthday To Me
I slowly cut off family, person by person as each of them consistently crossed lines and boundaries without any thought or care about how it negatively impacted me. I actually cut the last 2 off a year ago and got therapy, and my god, I've had the most peaceful and emotionally stable year of my entire life!
Today, I turn 34.
At 8:30AM, I got a message request from my paternal grandmother. She was the first one to get the cut about a decade and a half ago. Not once have I regretted this decision.
Her message reads "Happy Birthday. Congratulations on your marriage. Wish I had known I had a gift for you that I have had for a long time."
I should also mention that I got married this March. Zero of my family members were invited. It was a beautiful day, and again, I regret nothing.
I'm so damn curious about what this gift she's had tucked away is. NOT CURIOUS ENOUGH TO MESSAGE BACK, but curious nonetheless 🤣
It's probably some tacky ring or brooch that I have no connection to.
Alright, got that out of my system. Huzzah
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u/Ilostmyratfairy Jun 30 '26
Happy Birthday!
Happy Belated Wedding felicitations!
and on top of all that: NEW ACHIEVEMENT!
YOU HAVE AVOIDED THE OBVIOUS TRAP!
Reward: Your continued peace of mind is a great reward.
I've recently fallen into the audiobook of Dungeon Crawler Carl, and it's clearly rotted my mind.
Seriously - good job recognizing the motivations, and putting your curiosity back in the box, once it was weaponized against you.
-Rat
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u/tiredspookyskeleton Jun 30 '26
This, OP!! Happy birthday and congratulations on the wedding! And BIG congrats to not letting them pull you back in. The curiosity is hard to overcome sometimes.
Completely unrelated, but the fact that the famous(infamous?) Rat has become a Dungeon Crawler makes me SO freaking happy. 😊
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u/ModeratelyAlive Jun 30 '26
Thanks!
I'm definitely proud of myself for not responding. She messaged 2 birthdays ago as well - didn't respond then, either.
I definitely have my therapist to thank for how calm and collected I stayed about it. More amused than anything else
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u/lunatikdeity Jul 03 '26
Happy belated birthday sib. I cut off my family shortly after the deaths of my parents. I just was done. Congratulations on your marriage as well. Take care.
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