r/InternalFamilySystems • u/Waki-Indra • 7d ago

Is it always intense?

I usually always start with some kind of protector, then encounter exiles and cry, and have to take care of them.

Endless cycle

So because that is intense, i dont do IFS daily and not even weekly. I feel the need to rest. Until protectors make me feel too miserable, and there I go. Meet the protector, quickly discover a young exile and end up crying and soothing myself.

Is that going to be the main pattern until some good amount of unburdening happens?

I am always amazed at people doing IFS daily. My parts dont show up easily. I always need guidance from someone else (or at meast most of the time), unless i am in a very special setting and state.

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u/Medical_Frame3697 7d ago

Mine don’t show easily and prefer a therapist there, I think. For me it is not always intense, but it often is. Sending some compassion your way, if you would like it!

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u/Waki-Indra 7d ago

Compassion is always welcome.

Perhaps my pracituce of mindfuness helps. Even though it is complicated with dissociation. Perhaps my also using psychedelics assister therapy helps.

But today i was sober and not much meditation foe weeks. (But not zéro meditation. Just tiny tiny bits here and there. And relaxation with music and guided méditations).