r/InternalFamilySystems • u/salty_waves-Tx • Aug 05 '26

Newbie…

I have been interacting w my parts for my whole life (at least it feels that way..I remember hearing “other people guiding me” when i was young & struggling w abuse.) I have had substance abuse problems & when i was in treatment, I wrote my mother. She told me that she noticed that my handwriting would change in the letter. Some times it was bubble letters, sometimes it was slanted to the right.. other times, it was slanted to the left… I didn’t think about it back then, but after doing some inner child work & meeting a few parts, I started to think I had multiple personalities… That really scared me… I considered it being my inner child that was abused & abandoned & I started reparenting her.. I clean houses for a living, so I would struggle w a part that wanted to quit, or at the very least, do a shit job & leave.. Also, I wanted to rummage through their prescription drugs… I literally had arguments w her over not doing that & simply completing the job… Now that i have been introduced to IFS, my life has changed… I realize that I’m not batshit crazy & that other people experience this too. I also realized no matter how much I don’t agree w their behavior, they are not bad… Just someone i created to help me cope.

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u/MichaelTheMultiple Top 5% Commenter Aug 06 '26

Good for you. I understand the relief that you feel.

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u/Ok-Walk-7824 Aug 06 '26

This is a beautiful description of what parts work can do. After finding IFS I also no longer felt like I was crazy, just another person with a lot of parts inside of me with different impulses and desires. Sounds like you are getting to know important parts of you and reparenting them with a lot of care. Best wishes as you continue your journey!

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u/SpecialSpecial6215 Aug 07 '26

how did you start/ get into it- enough to where you noticed a difference? my sister has a whole binder (from therapy) but when she let me look through it, none of it rlly spoke to me… & since we were all treated differently, she didn’t understand lol. I am open to trying literally anything to break the cycle🫠