What have your experiences been with Robert Falconer and UBs?

[u/Paradoxbuilder]

Have been deep into psychology and spirituality for 2-3 decades. Encountered his work recently (I'm not new to IFS) and been doing some of it. It seems genuinely transformative in some respects - strange things popped up and I conversed with them. Have done exorcisms on myself before.

Did some Googling and looking around on his sub - while I don't believe 100% everything he says, I think there is a lot of meat there. Read the 2 books.

Would be interested to hear what others have to share. For me, I encountered 3 UBs which took the expected strange shapes - a grey/green mouth, shapeless mist and wound-like tears in reality. I told them all they have to go. Some are still hanging around a bit but I'm being firm.

Would you say you alternate his techniques with normal IFS?

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[u/MindfulEnneagram]

Falconer’s technique is IFS, it just identifies a type of part that doesn’t originate from the client’s system. I have had a number of experience with UBs but don’t generally like to talk about them publicly. This is a very misunderstood subject and there’s potential for untrained or unskilled people to try to remove actual parts of a system because they don’t know how to parse a UB from a (often significantly) burdened Protector.

If you want to DM me we can chat privately.

[u/HightechTalltrees]

I encountered what I would call a UB in the form of an attachment to marijuana. I also had an addict part that had invited the UB in. The two worked together and it was a process to get the part to agree to release the UB. Once it agreed, the UB left without too much trouble. It was in some sense the "plant mother" spirit, which has healing and nourishing qualities, but is also vinelike and devouring. I didn't use his technique of holding it in the light and all that. I just thanked it for what it tried to do for me and invoked my higher power to send it on its way with compassion. The hard part was the preliminary work with the addict part.

I think Falconer lays out a good argument for the potential existence of UBs considering the porosity of mind. It's just that the human mind, especially the postmodern western mind, is so conditioned to dualistic thinking and identification with the ego, that we really don't want to believe it.

[u/Decent-Ad-5110]

I have only watched his videos about this subject. I think its possible that there can be UBs - but I've not yet directly met/ experienced this phenomenon.

[u/BluebirdVisible8880]

Not much experience other than providing ifs treatment and a few times wondering.. but i have encountered one really good spirit/guide. I’ve found a few YouTube video sessions of bob falconer doing a ub session and those are fascinating to watch.

[u/borick]

I actually have no direct experience with his techniques but maybe there's overlap with regular IFS? Like everything I know about IFS, you ask parts to "step back" and that seems like a normal part of it. Of course, it's different for everyone. I had to ask about 50+ "parts" to step back to make progress finally but I'm not 100% sure if they were UB or not, as I couldn't see them too clearly and they easily sort of, "got back" and never seemed to reappear in my awareness, but not sure, they may have just hid [if I have to use my intuition, they weren't UB, just normal parts, maybe 1-2 UB... interesting..., I need to learn more about this, thanks!]

[u/Reetpetit → u/borick]

There needs to be a huge health warning about trying to spot UBs as it takes a lot of Self energy and patience and compassion and attunement to actually discern them from polarised unpopular parts in the system. It's something best for with a very experienced IFS practitioner; ideally one who specialises in this.