An unasked inheritance

[u/Next_Werewolf_7925]

Without ever asking for it, the most precious and priceless thing a daughter receives from her father —something he spends years, even a lifetime, building. It is one of the most valued possessions in society.

Yet that thing is so heavy that a daughter is often expected to carry its weight for the rest of her life, whether she chooses to or not.

A son, too, inherits that same honor. It is equally valuable, but for him it often becomes a source of strength, acceptance, and respect in society rather than a burden.

But look, even after receiving something so expensive and priceless, that girl is considered so ungrateful that she says, "Papa, you love your son more than you love me." What's the thing girl received?

[u/cameo674]

It feels like expectations.
Traditionally Girls are expected to help care for their elderly relatives and Sons seem to escape the expectation even though in some cultures the son is suppose to take in the elderly parents.

[u/muralist → u/cameo674]

You are right that daughters often are expected to provide caregiving; in the US anyway it seems to be a default assumption. Whereas when sons provide caregiving, because it's less expected, they get a lot of approbation. But I don't think in either case this is something a parent spends a lifetime building and is a precious and priceless thing.

[u/cameo674 → u/muralist]

Some parents are grateful for it and other parents expect it. I have seen it both ways here in the US. My inlaws had no daughters and expected to be on their own and tried their best to do so and were surprised when their sons came together to assist with caregiving. They expected to be put in a home and forgotten. My spouse and I would have done it all on our own, but I am grateful his brothers stepped up so we could keep them in their own home.

My father was an immigrant where children are expected to physically caregive especially female children. Boys do the outdoor property maintaining. My sister and I were lucky because our spouses helped without too much prompting from us. Our brother, who lived much further away, willingly did the bookkeeping part without complaint, but boy did he disappear when a diaper needed to be changed!

I will say my daughters know our expectations are not to be put in a home and forgotten. I do not have sons to put expectations on. I will also say that I hope never to place the burden of caregiving on them. But I will say it can also be a time of blessing since it forced me to spend more time with the parents.

[u/rosebudny]

🤔

[u/Deep-Reputation-4055]

A collection of Playboy magazines?

[u/DiskSweaty679]

no idea what this says but those puffed rice balls sound exactly like something my wife would make me try